Post # 32
I have never had the bride pick up the tab when I have been in a wedding! (I am seriously pouting right now) 🙂
For my wedding, we are paying for transportation (renting vans for all the bridal party and their dates), lodging (for bridal party, dates and parents) and on the day of the wedding I am treating my gals to a brunch, a mani/pedi (I am buying them each a bottle of the color I would like them to wear) and giving them a $50 gift certificate for hair in addition to gifts (welcome bags full of goodies and pearl necklaces). I figure that with everything I am paying for, they can pay the difference for their ‘dos and tips. The girls are also paying for Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses (their choice in any of 4 styles from J. Crew) and plane tickets to get here.
Post # 33
Erin – that sounds very reasonable! i’m sure your BMs appreciate that you’re keeping their costs in mind. Hope you have a great wedding!
Post # 34
ABSOLUTELY pay if you are requiring your bridesmaids to do their hair or makeup a certain way that you want it. I have a very big problem with people who get so wrapped up in their own wants that they do not realize that they need to be considerate of the people who are participating in the wedding because you asked them to. It is a big expense to be a bridesmaid. If you cannot afford to pay for their hair, do not tell them how to wear it. When planning your wedding, picture yourself as a guest, or your bridesmaid. You want it to be a fun, relaxed, and inexpensive / non-stressful event for them. If you are adament that your bridesmaids need to have their hair a certain way, then you should cut some other costs from your wedding to accomodate them. It is very unfair and in very poor taste to ask uneccesary expenses of people who are at your wedding to support you.
I know that is not your question but I had to throw that in. If you cannot afford to pay for their hair, then that is not a faux pas, as long as you let them do it however they want!
Post # 35
I recently had my hair trail and booked my appointment. I knew my mom would want her hair done, so I made that appointment as well. My Future Mother-In-Law made appointments for herself and her mom. I was sharing my trial pics with the wedding party and was completely surprised that they wanted appointments too!
Since it is a nice place, the price tags match. Prior to booking the appointments, I was upfront about the costs and reiterated that it was entirely up to them how they did their hair and whether they did it themselves or had it done. I wanted to make sure there weren’t any nasty suprizes when we all checked out. They both decided to go ahead with appointments, so now we’re all going in together. To make it easy, we’re carpooling from the inn.
It is not expected for the bride to pay for hair/makeup unless there are specific restrictions (must have it done professionally or in a certain style). If you can afford to cover it, it is a lovely guesture. However, some people are much more comfortable having their hair done than doing it themselves. Check with your party and at least coordinate appointments, if you can. 🙂
Post # 36
I’m treating my ladies to hair and makeup, which will cost about 150 each. Most of them are flying into california from the east coast and are going through considerable expense already, so I figured this is the least I can do. Plus I think it’ll be fun getting ready together on the day of.
Post # 37
The last wedding I was in, the other BMs and I opted to do our own hair and makeup. I’ve been known to do really great updo’s so they left the hairstyling to me. It turned out great, if anyone wants to see a pic. One of the other Bridesmaid or Best Man knew how to do makeup, so she took care of that for everyone. We all decided to sleep over at my place the night before and wake up really early the day of to do our hair/makeup. It was a really great bonding experience for everyone involved and we all turned out looking fantastic (: