Post # 1
So, here’s my situation: I have 5 bridesmaids (7, actually. One is my 10yr old daughter –> maid of honor and sister –> matron of honor). Obviously, I will be paying for my daughter’s dress. My sis knows she is responsible to pay for hers. My question is — should I send a reminder to the rest of my BMs that the dress is their financial responsibility?
We’re going Bridesmaid or Best Man dress shopping next weekend. I just want to make sure we’re on the same page. When I was a Bridesmaid or Best Man, I always knew I had to pay for it. I think my girls know (honestly, I’m not sure if they were ever BMs before. They’re all married but all in civil court), but is a reminder necessary?
I prefer for my girls to wear the same dress — and of course I’m mindful of how much it would be. I honestly don’t want to spend more than $150, and I think that’s pretty reasonable.
Should I send them a reminder that the dress, alterations, and shoes are their financial responsibility? I do, however, plan to give them accessories as part of my bridesmaids’ gifts to them.
Post # 3
No, they should know their outfit is on them.
Post # 4
I believe it depends on where you are from. I know in the states in common for BMs to pay for their own airfare/hotel/attire, but other countries its normal for the bride & groom to pay for it.
Post # 5
I had all my girls pay for themselves. Thats usually the tradition and then the bride gives them the accesiories like the jewelry and maybe hair stuff is there is any and some times the shoes if they’re all having them matching. I just told my girls to pick whatever they had that was comfy for them as long as they were black. I’d say for you, ovibously you pay your daughter, but yeh they all pay for themselves. You got enough to pay for without worring about that too.
Post # 6
It’s definitely something you should bring up, and you should discuss it amongst all of them to settle on a price that they’re all comfortable with. Every wedding is different. I was just in a wedding that we had to pay for the dress, matching shoes, jewellery, alterations, everything. My bridesmaids are paying for their dresses, I will pay for their alterations, I’ve told them to wear whatever sshoes they want, if they have something they already own wear them, wear whatever jewellery they want and i will pay for their hair and make-up.
Like I said every wedding is different and you could avoid a potentially awkward situation by addressing it now – even just send out a group email and let them all know you will take of accessories but the dress etc will be there responsibility, let them know you don’t want to go over $150 and make sure they can all afford that.
Better to be clear from the start than have arguments over it later on