(Closed) Who should pay for the dinner at an appointment?

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
Hostess
18643 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Could you pay for your part and then she pays for hers?

Post # 4
Member
2397 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I’d just go in with the mindset that you’re going to pay for your own meal.  If she decides that she wants to pay for your meal too, then let her, since she extended the invite 🙂

Post # 5
Member
2015 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

In this situation, I agree with MissAsB. I would expect to go dutch. I don’t think the photog will expect you to pay for anything and I don’t think she’s expecting to pick up the entire tab, either.

This is usually why I prefer to meet clients at places like Starbucks, haha. That way, the only thing I have to worry about is picking up a coffee if it feels right. 

Post # 6
Hostess
18643 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

After thinking about it, when I met our DJ, we each paid for our own coffee at the coffee place.

Post # 7
Member
4480 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch

I would expect to cover your own.

Post # 8
Member
2681 posts
Sugar bee

If she invited you I would think she should offer to pay, however I agree with others that I would go in with the mindset of paying for myself.

Post # 9
Member
2767 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

dutch!

Post # 10
Member
2634 posts
Sugar bee

Another vote for dutch!  We did pay for our officiant’s meal when we met with him though.  We weren’t around food for anyone else.

Post # 11
Member
828 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

When we met our photog, he paid, but we were also meeting at a coffee shop, not for dinner. I thought it was really generous, and had prepared to pay for myself.

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