(Closed) Who should pay? POLL

posted 4 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: Who should pay for the MOH/BM dresses and shoes?
    Bride : (12 votes)
    23 %
    Maid of Honor/ Bridesmaid : (41 votes)
    77 %
    Bride pays for Maid of Honor and Bridesmaids for themselves : (0 votes)
  • Post # 2
    4524 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2015

    It largely depends on where you’re from, but I would say never the last option.

    ftr, I offered to pay for dresses and am requesting a only a certain color for shoes, and I’m an American bee.

    Post # 3
    4040 posts
    Honey bee

    In the US, the ladies who wear the dresses/gowns usually pay for them, along with the accessories (sometimes wedding day jewelry is gifted), shoes, alterations, and professional hair and make-up.  They also chip-in or split the cost of the shower (my daughter paid $500 for her share of one last year), and their individual costs of the bachelorette, plus covering a portion of the bride’s share. Then there are the travel costs, if it’s a destination wedding …

    However, there may sometimes be exceptions. For my daughter’s wedding, we 100% hosted the ceremony/reception expenses, but the bride covered gifts to the bridal party, including their wedding day jewelry and hair/makeup. My other daughter/matron of honor officially hosted the shower (bought the games and prizes), and I/MOB bought the flowers, escort cards, favors, and invitations; my very generous mother paid the bill for the restaurant. I said I’d buy the gowns for the kids: flowergirl (a bargain -new, on e-bay), and groom’s niece (regular bridesmaid gown). Of course, there’s always that one bridesmaid who doesn’t have a credit card or doesn’t know the concept of saving; I had to pay the 50% deposit on her gown and pay the alterations lady, so she could get it out of the shop. ARGH!!!!!

    Post # 4
    1214 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2015

    Bridesmaids pay for their own dress. It’s nice if the bride can figure out what her maids can afford and go off that. I plan on gifting jewelry to my maids that will go with dresses we get. As far as shoes go, I honestly don’t care what they wear. Their dresses will be long, so no one’s gonna see em. Payless has a bridal section with nice shoes that can be any color so they don’t have to fork out a ton of dough if they don’t want to. I think it would be weird for the bride to pay for Maid/Matron of Honor stuff and not everyone elses. The Maid/Matron of Honor is more of a title thing than anything. They technically are in charge of planning the shower and bach party, but I’ve found that a lot of times, the bridal party does it together.

    Post # 5
    1164 posts
    Bumble bee

    I’m British,  here the bride pays for the dresses

    Post # 6
    8776 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper

    Given that the readership of this forum is predominently Americans the poll is not really going to tell you anything expect the majority of bees, who are from North America where it is custom for bm’s to pay for their own dresses, think bm’s should pay for their dresses.

    Post # 7
    7311 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

    I’m American, and we paid for everything for our bridal party (attire, accomodations, etc.). The way we saw it, us getting married should not have a negative impact on the household budgets of our nearest and dearest.

    Post # 8
    577 posts
    Busy bee

    I think whoever picks the dress should pay. If the bride wants a particular style/look, she pays. If she let’s them pick their own, they pay. 

    Post # 9
    6629 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2012

    vanessa1359:  My girls all paid for their own dresses/shoes. I paid for their hair/makeup. My Darling Husband paid for all his guys tux rentals, since he didn’t do a “gift” (where as I did hair/makeup for my girls).

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