(Closed) Who Should Pay?

posted 9 years ago in Honeymoons
  • poll: Who pays for the honeymoon?

    Bride's Parents

    Groom's Parents

    The Couple Themselves

  • Post # 3
    911 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2013 - The Down Town Club, Philadelphia

    I have no idea what proper etiquette is, but we are paying for our own honeymoon.

    My dad is paying for the reception. Fiance family is paying for the rehearsal. My mom is hosting the morning after brunch, and everything else (band, flowers, fashion, photog) my Fiance and I are paying for ourselves.

    We haven’t even begun to talk about the honeymoon!

    Post # 4
    7547 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: January 2013

    I think the couple should pay for it since it’s 100% for the couple.

    Post # 5
    2818 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    We’re paying for our own honeymoon & I would never expect our parents to pay for it.

    Post # 6
    1402 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    We’re paying for everything wedding related since we’re the ones getting married, not our parents.

    Post # 7
    1709 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2013 - Walt Disney World

    I’ve read that it is the groom’s responsibility to pay for the honeymoon (not the groom’s family).  We are paying for the entire wedding and honeymoon ourselves so it doesn’t really matter for us.

    Post # 8
    4946 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2018

    Unless it’s gifted by someone, the couple should pay for the honeymoon. Traditionally, the groom pays for it anyway. 

    Post # 9
    963 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    If you want a fancy vacation, I think you should pay for it. Times have changed A LOT over the past generation and much of the traditional ettiquette about who pays for what isn’t followed anymore.

    Post # 10
    3180 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I think a honeymoon is like any other vacation, whoever is going should pay for it. 

    Post # 11
    5008 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: April 2012

    @ClassyKate:  Yes, your future in-laws are correct in telling you off for asking. The old etiquette is based on who traditionally OFFERED to pay for each thing and is utterly obsolete. If you want a honeymoon, you pay for it unless someone else offers.

    Post # 12
    3884 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    Asking your parents to pay for your honeymoon is a bit entitled and I can see why they’d react badly to that request.

    Post # 13
    978 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    Traditionally, the groom pays, not his family.  That’s what were planning on, but we may have to delay it until months after so i can help save some $$ for it.

    Post # 14
    7898 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

    I agree, too bad for you. You should pay for your own honeymoon unless someone else offers. The days of the groom’s side paying for the rehearsal, the alcohol (PS NOT the reception), and the honeymoon are long gone… though the rehearsal is still a common thing the groom’s side often offers to pay for.

    Post # 15
    1156 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    I agree that its your responsibility…If they wanted to pay,they would have offered.

    Post # 16
    1811 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    I voted that the bride and groom should pay for the honeymoon themselves even though ours was a gift from FI’s parents. There was no expectation that they would gift us such an awesome trip and we would have paid for it ourselves in any other case.

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