(Closed) Who should read your readings etc?

posted 5 years ago in Christian
Post # 3
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@Rachel631:  Personally, I agree with the decision not to have non-religious people do religious readings and prayers, so I would say the same applies to your Bridesmaid or Best Man. I know you say there’s a connection, but if she’s an athiest and it’s a prayer, it’s not geniune. If it were just a reading, I would say it’s better.

ETA: I’m not comfortable with asking non-religious people to do readings with any element of religion. We’ve asked the pastor to do ours.

Post # 4
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1497 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

You can ask her to do the prayer, because of the connection, but tell her that if she feels uncomfortable in any way, she doesn’t have to do it.

I agree with your Fiance that rules should apply to anyone, but I don’t think anyone will be offended to not do a religious reading, esp. if they’re not religious.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I don’t mind if a non-religious person (so maybe someone who is respectful of Christianity but not a church goer, but not someone who is dead against it) does the bible reading but I would be against a non-church goer doing the prayer. 

Post # 6
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@FromA2B2013:  Yeah I pretty well agree with that. I’d say:
– for readings, choose the best person, religious or not, assuming that person is comfortable doing the reading.
– for prayers, Christians only.
For our wedding we had only one reading, the prayers were all done by the pastor. We had two bridesmaids/groomsmen each and the reading was done by my “3rd choice” bridesmaid.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

We’re having one bible reading and one non-religious reading (or at least that’s the plan!). And we plan to have a Christian friend for the bible reading (and to do the prayers), but a non-religious friend for the other reading. I’m sure most of our friends wouldn’t mind, but I think I prefer it this way.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@paula1248:  It’s a tricky situation because on my side of the invites, I would say 75% are church people whereas on my fiancé’s side, it’s only him, his mum, dad and grandparents who go to church. So we are having our father’s do the bible reading (it’s quite long) and then we are having my old pastor do the prayers. 

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@FromA2B2013:  We have exactly the same issue, but the opposite way round! Including a non-religious reading was our way of including people from both sides in the ceremony.

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@Rachel631:  I see your problem. At the moment (and we’re a while away yet) more of his side are involved than mine and that’s partly for the same reason. Does everyone need to do something?!

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@RainStorm: When we met with my minister to discuss the ceremony, he bought with him a basic ceremony outline that included a space for a reading or poem. We’ve taken it out as there aren’t any poems or readings that we like. Instead we’ve opted for an extra worship song and the two of us taking communion together. 

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