(Closed) Who should received RSVP cards?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Who should the RSVP cards be returned to if parents are hosting the wedding?
    My parents : (10 votes)
    37 %
    My fiance and I : (17 votes)
    63 %
  • Post # 3
    13290 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    My mom wanted them to go to her, and my Fiance wanted them to come to us.  It was my first bridal meltdown because I didn’t know what to do or who to agree with.  Ultimately, everything came from my parents, with the response cards being returned to me.  Part of me wishes that they would have gone to my parents for the traditional aspect.

    Post # 4
    3885 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    Really it doesn’t matter who they go to, as long as whoever gets them doesn’t mind having to keep track of them. I have a friend who is marrying in a few months and having the RSVP’s go to her sister because her sister has volunteered to manage the responses.

    Post # 5
    523 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2013 - Callanwolde Fine Arts Center

    Traditionally they should go to whoever is hosting the event. My Fiance and I sent our invitations with our return address stamped on them and the RSVPs came back to our house. My parents live an hour away and they are constantly out of town so this was just easier. They didn’t seem to mind either.

    Post # 6
    3569 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    @Sea_Ashley:  My parents are paying for the majority of our wedding.. but I insisted the RSVPs come to our house. That’s part of the fun, opening the mailbox each day & seeing who’s coming/not coming! It’s up to you, if you want to get them send them to you.. if you don’t really care send them to your parents.

    Post # 7
    396 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    traditionally the person hosting the wedding receives them. They are the ones who need the final head count and names

    Post # 8
    2335 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    Techically it should go to the host, but I think its fine to go to you if you’re handling the guest list logistics.  My parents are hosting but I’m doing all of the planning so I had the RSVPs come to my house.

    Post # 9
    1696 posts
    Bumble bee

    They go to whomever the hostess, your mother, wishes to receive them. Etiquette allows her to have replies directed to her social secretary if she has one, so she may certainly have them directed to her daughter if that is what she wants.

    Post # 12
    10453 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2014

    You. Since you’re probably the one planning!

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