Post # 17
I feel that since your mom is really the only one wanting this shower and insisting that there are 100 guests, she ought to be the one to pay for it. Whether you choose her to have hosting credits or not
Post # 18
Anyone can throw a shower. I think etiquette is your Maid/Matron of Honor throws it at the mother of the brides house =) My mom and cousin (MOH) will be throwing a joint one in my hometown and my best friend will be throwing me another one where I currently live (180 miles away). 🙂
Post # 19
Bless your mom’s heart!!
I know she was horrified, as I would be too!!
But like you said, it’s different there where you are now.
As they say, “when in Rome…..”
Enjoy your day and all of your fetes!
On a side note, I work for a company in New England and have learned from their brides that there are very big differences regionally in what is accepted/practiced. That’s why I always try to preface my posts about where I live to add perspective!!
Post # 20
Honestly I’m kinda bummed, I doubt I will have a shower. I have not heard anyone mention it and my wedding is in 9 weeks. I would not dare mention it to anyone though. I think everyone is busy and fell on hard times.
Post # 21
Does your mom have a group of close friends? In my parents circle of friends, there is a group of 8-9 women who always throw the showers for the brides (daughters or soon to be daughter-in-laws of the women in the group of friends). So the cost gets split between all the people who are hosting. Anyways, I think its a really sweet tradition and perhaps you could suggest it to your mom? You could start a new tradition. My mom isn’t involved in hosting or paying for the shower but she tried to be and I dont see any reason why your mom couldn’t be involved. I guess its not tradition for the MOB to throw the shower but I know many that do. And she could just chip in.
Anyways, I think my shower is going to be in this cool restaraunt in a loft space that I really like near my hometown. You should bring up the shower – I think its a great part of the whole wedding experience!
Post # 22
My mom is so antisocial lol ! I doubt she would even know where to begin. sad right? I’m gonna enjoy getting married and not worry about a shower, if it happens it happens.
Post # 23
That is so sad! Every bride should have the opportunity to be showered. What about a close friend—expressing your sadness. I see nothing wrong with that at all.
Hoping someone comes through for you!!!
Post # 24
I hope something happens as well. I am kind of bummed about it and I shouldn’t be.
Post # 25
My future mother in law and my sister/moh are throwing mine. It will be at FMIL’s house. Could your sis and bridesmaids host at your Mom’s house? Traditionally mothers didn’t host these events because the bride still lived at home, but now that we ladies are moving out on our own, its more acceptable.
However, it is up to your bridal party to plan the shower. If they truly cannot, and no one steps forward to do so, there will be no shower. It is not ok to throw your own.