- 9 years ago
- Wedding: August 2011
So i had a talk with my mom about this recently, and i wanted some bee help. NOTE: I know that only I can decide who i want to walk me down, BUT i really could use some objective reasoning. I am not feeling strongly one way or the other, if i was, i’d obviously do whatever i felt strongest about. Since my dad and I are not close, there are just so many people in my life who i love and if i had it my way i’d walk down 5 or 6 times with different people! hah. So- below are my options, from an objective perspective, what would you decide? Other options welcome…
Dad– okay i’m just throwing this in there for tradition’s sake, as i don’t think my dad should walk me down the aisle (at least alone). My parents have been divorced since i was 10, and we’ve had a very up and down relationship. Things are better now, but he still dissapoints me (forgets my birthday, never calls, etc).
Mom– my mom is my best friend- she is an amazing individual who has overcome so many obstacles and provided me with an amazing childhood. Out of all the souls on this earth, hers and I are the most alike, and probably the closest.
Mom & Dad– my mom for reasons above and to avoid hurting my dad’s feelngs, & because it will be the only time in my adult life i will have both of them by my side
Brother- I only have one biological brother (i do have a few step/half siblings), he’s younger than me. We’re pretty close, but in terms of nurturing I definitely take care of him more than he takes care of me.. I support him somewhat financially and have had to get him out of some serious binds. but, he is probably the second most important guy in my life
Grandpa– My maternal grandpa is the most father-like figure I have. He has supported me financially, emotionally, as a mentor, etc. He’s incredible. Problem with this arrangement is i don’t want to hurt my paternal grandfather’s feelings, who is still alive, but we aren’t nearly as close.