Post # 1
I have a question about ceremony etiquette. If my father is not in the picture who should walk me down the aisle? I have a brother that I’m not very close with but could definitely ask him. Could my mom do it? Or do I ask an uncle? Anybody have any stories about who gave them away?
Post # 2
You can bestow that honor on whomever you would like to have do this for you. I have three dear friends who married after they had lost their fathers. One asked her older brother to do this. One asked her mother to fill this role. The third asked a friend’s father to do the honor.
Post # 3
If you want an escort, you can ask anyone you want. You could also choose to walk on your own as we are well past the days when women were given away in marriage. Your Fiance could meet you halfway up the aisle, or the two of you could walk in together.
Post # 4
The other thing to keep in mind is that you do not necessarily need anyone to walk you down the aisle. My dad was deceased when I was married, and I was not very close to my only uncle (nor do I have a brother, although that would have felt odd to me even if I had). While some people have their mothers walk with them, I felt old enough and confident enough to walk alone. I would certainly rather have walked alone than to have a not-very-close family member walk with me just because they were male.
Post # 5
love that-Confident enough to walk alone.
Post # 6
You can choose whomever you’d like Or to have no one at all. My fiancé and I will be walking down together.
Post # 7
My father passed away a few years ago and I did have the option of asking my wonderful older brother or my Mom. I decided to ask my Mom to do it and she was thrilled.
Post # 8
My grandfather will be walking me down the aisle. I am not sure yet, if I will ask my mom to join also.
Post # 9
Do whatever feels right for you! If there’s someone close to you who you would like to walk you down the aisle, whether it’s family or friend, ask them. I saw one friend walk alone down the aisle, and it was perfect for her. I walked into the ceremony arm-in-arm with the man I was about to marry, and it felt absolutely perfect for us. There’s no right or wrong way for you to enter your marriage ceremony. Make it your own!
Post # 10
I’m also walking down the aisle with my fiance. I like that, since to me it symbolizes the two of us entering a commitment together.
Post # 11
I was going to have my mom walk me down the isle but its a bit of a distance & shes not comfortable with that so my brother will be doing it & my mom will be my Maid/Matron of Honor.
Post # 12
Re: Who “should” walk you down the aisle: First of all, as I stand on the soapbox I’ve spoken from about this –as a full time officiant for many years, there really are no “shoulds” that I see. I have a pretty big box for what is right and wrong (to dramatize this, a “wrong” that I do have is if the couple were to be pronounced married at the beginning of the ceremony… silly of course but I think you get the point).
Re:walk down the aisle, if I met with you as a prospective couple that I might officiate for, I’d ask you what pops into your mind about when you ask this question? What would you like? Who would you like to escort you down, if any one?
By the way, sometimes brides want to walk down with the groom in which case I suggest a romantic way that always works great: start walking down and by the time you get to the beginning of the formal aisle, your groom will be there to escort you the rest of the way to the altar. How did he get there? The officiant minister gave him the cue so the timing of his arrival would be just perfect. This is one way of coming down the aisle. There are many others too. Again, though, the first question to ask yourself is: What would I like? How do i want to enter? You don’t have to know exactly, but you might get some ideas. Best, Rev. Paul