(Closed) Who should walk me down the aisle? Father daughter dance?

posted 6 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Well, first off, you don’t HAVE to be walked down the aisle or have a father/daughter dance. However, you said yourself you REALLY want your uncle to play the big part – so why not have him walk you down the aisle, and if you want to do the father/daughter dance, do it with your stepfather? 

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

OMG! I started reading this and I had to double check to make sure it wasn’t my post! hahha. I’m in the same situation where my dad is an a$$.  Haven’t seen or heard from him in about 5 years.  I had plan on being the bigger person and invite him to the wedding but no one has his address. 

My uncle who has been a father figure since I was a child will be walking me down the aisle! 🙂

Post # 6
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519 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I know a couple people who had 2 people walk them down the aisle. One person waited halfway, while the other walked the bride halfway up, then they switched off.

Post # 7
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

I love the idea that your uncle has taken on a father role in your life, and that he means a lot to you.

However, do you think that if you have him walk you down the aisle, and do the “father/daughter” dance with him, your step father will be really hurt?
            I think this situation becomes tricky, because although it is your wedding, and you can obviously do whatever you want, I would worry about feelings being very hurt.  (Not sure if that occured to you or not, or if you care wither way… No judgement either way… just thought I should point it out)

I would either omit it entirely, or split the duties between them (ie: have them both walk you down the aisle and then split the father daughter song in two, or have two songs) or have one walk you down the aisle and then dance with the other one.

 

Just my opinion. But, you’re obviously an adult and can do what you want… You just asked for opinions

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Our officiant came to our house on Sunday and we actually talked about this. I don’t have any family and there’s really no one I want to walk me down the aisle. So what I am going to be doing is walking by myself, and then Fiance is going to walk back up the aisle and meet me half way, walk me the rest of the way. 

However, if you want your uncle to play a big part, definitely have him do it! 🙂 If you don’t talk to your dad, then he doesn’t deserve the honor of giving you away. You should have someone that you trust and who plays a large role in your life. 

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

My dad passed away, so I’m having my uncle walk me down the aisle.  You can definitely have both your step-dad and uncle walk you if you want.  It doesn’t look strange at all.  More and more weddings have both mom and dad walking the bride down the aisle (or some other variation of two family members).  Totally works.

If you only want your uncle to walk you down the aisle, why not have the father/daughter dance with your step-dad?

I’m omitting the father/daughter dance completely, so that’s an option too.  It’s your wedding so do what you feel comfortable with.  🙂

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

I think it’s perfectly fine and really sweet to ask your uncle! If my dad wasn’t there, I’d ask my uncle because he’s been more of a dad to me my whole life than my own dad. Also a friend of mine’s father passed away a year before her wedding so she had a close male friend of the family to walk her down the aisle. You cld then ask your stepdad to do the father/daughter dance maybe?

Post # 13
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

My dad passed away when I was 9. Originally I wanted my mother to walk me down as she has been the constant parent/supporter/provider/superwoman my entire life. However, my grandfather has been asking to walk me constantly (my mother never married so I’m guessing I’m his last chance). I’m not particularly close to him and I really feel my mom should do it but i’ve since compromised with him and decided to have him walk me half way, and my mom will walk me the rest of the way. As for the father/daughter dance, I’m skipping it.

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