(Closed) Who should walk me down the aisle? (Long… sorry)

posted 7 years ago in Ceremony
  • poll: Who?
    Grampa : (25 votes)
    100 %
    All three : (0 votes)
    Other (suggestion below) : (0 votes)
    None, get eloped. : (0 votes)
  • Post # 3
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    Just have your grandfather do it.  It sounds like thats what you really want anyways.  Hopefully your dad will understand (he did miss 14 years of your life) and hopefully the stepdad understands because he’s not your real dad (and is no longer in your daily life).  

    Post # 4
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    6015 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: March 2012

    I voted grampa cause he has been there every step of your life.  The other two seem to have missed some years.  

    Post # 5
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    408 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I think you should have your Grandpa do it too. It’s your day, you can’t worry about everyone else. Also, if you go with Grandpa, you don’t have to choose between your “dads”. Grandpa’s are awesome!

    Post # 7
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    1537 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    I vote grandpa, but if you want all three I have seen some people have their “fathers” (because of step-dads etc.) each take a point on the aisle and take turns walking the bride from point to point (handing her off at each point). I think you could make that work if you really want to.

    Post # 8
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    46334 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    If you want to involve all three, you could have your biological Dad start, hand you off to your stepdad, then he hands you off to your Grandpa. The “Dads” could each do about 1/4 of the aisle and Grandpa the remaining half.

    Post # 9
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    220 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    Definitely Grandpa – but just to make sure feelings aren’t hurt, definitely try to talk to both your dad and stepdad to let them know that you really appreciate what they have done in your life and you’re happy to have them there on your big day.  Do you think you’ll include them in other ways like speeches, etc?

    Post # 10
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    5921 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: December 2010

    It is easier said then done, but just do whatever it is that feels right.

    I have a dad who I am not very close to, and a step-dad who I am closer to.

    I considering having them both do it, but in the end, I decided to do what felt right and I am having my mom walk me down the aisle. 🙂

    Post # 11
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    242 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    @6598731ssfse3: Definitely your Grandfather!  Your heart may never rest easy on any other decision.  However, my suggestion would be to honor your dads  at some portion of the ceremony.  In my church ceremony, my fiance and I would be presenting roses to our moms to honor their contributions to our lives while the vocalist sings Ave Maria.

    Maybe you could do something similar where their impact on your life is highlighted.  I would think it’s an honor that you carved out a minute of your ceremony just for them! 

    Post # 12
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    13099 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I voted for your Grandpa but if you wanted to try to avoid hurt feelings you could have each of them walk you 1/3 of the way down the aisle.  Step-dad starts then passes you off to your dad who passes you off to your Grandpa (Grandpa would then finish and “give you away”).

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