(Closed) Who should walk me down the aisle? My dad or my stepdad?

posted 4 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: Dorset, UK

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annaclark857 :  if there is room for both and they get on well enough to do it together – ask them both, but let them know the other has also been asked.

Post # 3
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Buzzing bee

Who raised you? Who do you feel closer to? Can one do half way and the other finish? Could you walk by yourself? Could your mom walk you instead?

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2016 - Painswick Church and the Falcon Hotel

Both! One on each arm 

Post # 5
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Busy bee

Both, or walk with one half way and then the other the other half.

Post # 6
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Blushing bee

I’d have them both walk me down the aisle if I have relationships with both of them.

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2022

Which one raised you? 

Another option… why not walk with your mum? Doesn’t have to be a man. 

Post # 8
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

This is one I wrestled with for awhile. What I finally decided was since my mom is remarried and my biological dad isn’t, my stepdad will walk my mom down immediately before my dad walks me down (almost at the same time). Just symbolic of my strong relationship with all three. Another option is a brother if you have one (I have three).

Post # 9
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Helper bee

I had both my dad and step dad walk me down the isle. It worked out perfectly.

For the father daughter dance they both picked their own song and the DJ transitioned halfway through. I didnt want to make my guests sit through two whole songs.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

Who are you closer to? You don’t owe anyone anything, even a walk down the aisle. You can walk solo, with your mom, with both, or have Fiance meet you half way. If you’re closer with your bio dad, then walk with him. If he was out of the picture and stepdad raised you, go with him.

Post # 11
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

You could also have one of your dads do something else at the wedding (a reading etc)

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

You could have no one walk you and just give a speech after about these amazing men in your life. 

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