(Closed) Who should walk me down the aisle?

posted 9 years ago in Ceremony
  • poll: Who Should Walk Me Dow the Aisle? (No dad, sadly; see explanation)
    MY BROTHER: we're not exactly close, but we do love one another : (12 votes)
    30 %
    MY MAID OF HONOR: actually, my 8 year old niece and best-ie : (3 votes)
    8 %
    ALL THE KIDS, TOGETHER: we could all join hands and just romp down the aisle : (9 votes)
    23 %
    WALK ARM IN ARM WITH GROOM?: should we just come up the aisle together? : (16 votes)
    40 %
  • Post # 3
    7975 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    I voted for with your Fiance, because that’s what I’m hoping to do πŸ™‚

    Traditionally Dad would walk Daughter down the aisle and ‘give’ her to her new Husband. Like some sort of twisted business transaction. Obviously no one is giving you away, literally or figuratively, in your case. πŸ™‚ So I feel like you and Fiance can come down the aisle together, part of your journey in your new life that you’re beginning TOGETHER!

    The kids were my second (and very close) choice. I’d say it could definitely be fun, since your wedding is pretty kiddy-friendly to begin with πŸ™‚

    Post # 4
    3979 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 2012

    I voted for your Fiance.

    My Fiance is going to meet me half way… We’re in this together, my dad’s an idiot & it just feels right πŸ™‚

    Post # 5
    873 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 1969

    I really hate the ‘giving away’ tradition, but I always expected my father to walk me down the aisle because it would have made him so happy.  However, he died a few years ago, and now my mum wants my uncle to do it.  He and his daughter have a very bad relationship, and she refused to walk down the aisle with him out of spite.  I feel strongly torn by this issue and need some time to sort it all out!

    However, in your situation, I love the idea of the kids escorting you because I think it would be unique and joyful.  I’ve never seen anyone else enter the ceremony like this, so it would probably stick in people’s minds.  You also walk to the front as a single girl and leave with your new husband as a married woman. 

    Just my thoughts.^^

    Post # 6
    1498 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    Why not walk alone? Soak it all in as you walk down the aisle.

    Post # 7
    4001 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I am leaning toward saying to have your brother walk you down the aisle.  I see its not a popular decision and I know you’re not super close with him but I like the idea of someone you’ve grown up with “giving you away” to your hubby.  I think even though he’s not an emotional person he will be honored and touched to be asked.  Its a huge deal!  And I love the idea of the groom waiting for you at the end of the aisle, just looking at you and your beauty as you walk closer, aaaaaw!

    Post # 8
    1120 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2009

    I have an idea of what you mean by your relationship with your brother being not pally-pally, that’s similar to mine. But you also say that you do love each other, and this may be something that would really mean a lot to him.

    Do you have any idea if he’s thinking/expecting that you might ask him?

    Post # 9
    11325 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2011

    I like the symbolism of walking down the aisle single and leaving with your husband, which is why I’d say no to walking with your fiance. Although maybe walk half way alone and have him meet you? Otherwise I think having the kids walk you is cool.

    Post # 10
    2066 posts
    Buzzing bee

    I didn’t vote because I think you should consider walking down the aisle by yourself!  A friend did this and all I thought was “wow”.

    Post # 11
    647 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I like the idea of your fiance walking you down the aisle.  I love that you are so close with your niece, how sweet!  That’s really cool that she’s your Maid/Matron of Honor.

    Post # 12
    699 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2009

    I think you should think about walking by yourself as well. I can just imagine some mad chaos with a bunch of kids and you in a dress trying to get down the aisle!

    Post # 14
    1757 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I’m also not voting, but I’ll share with you what I plan to do. My dad died when I was four, and I always assumed that my mom would walk me down the aisle. Unfortunately, after surviving breast cancer, she succumbed to pancreatic cancer back in 2005. When she was alive, mom was a HUGE Queen fan, going so far as to join the European fan club despite living in Illinois. So, in her honor, I’m walking down the aisle to Queen. Even though she won’t be with me physically, I won’t be walking down the aisle alone.

    Post # 15
    545 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 1969

    I would pick the brother.  Even though you are not close but like you said you love each other.  As long as there is sibling love, I think it would mean a lot to both of you if he were  to walk you down the aisle (unless you really just don’t want to.)  I have one brother who I am close to, and he’s actually my Man of Honor, and one brother who I am not so close to, but still love.  I think if I don’t have my father or the brother that I am close to available to walk me down the aisle, I’d still pick the brother whom I am not close to to walk down the aisle.  He is still the man of the “family” and I wouldn’t consider him any less.  This is just my personal view on it. πŸ™‚ 

    Post # 16
    2695 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 2008

    how about your mother and your brother together?

    I personally think the idea of your brother being involved is very sweet.  You don’t have to be the closest siblings in the world, but he is your brother.  And as fun as walking down with the kids could be, this is a pretty special moment as you are walking to your soon to be husband, and it would be nice for you to be able to savor it (which might be hard with all the kids at your side!)

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