Post # 1
A little back story first. I was adopted at birth and then my parents divorced when I was five. My mom remarried and I had a great stepdad. I would have had him walk me down the isle but they divorced two years ago and it was pretty messy. Around two years ago I was able to track down my birth family and have become close with my sister, she is going to be one of my bridesmaids, and my grandfather. My birth father has still been distant, but I am very close to my grandpa and would prefer to have him walk me. The dilemma is I don’t want to insult my grandfather by asking him over my father, his son. I also don’t want to hurt my mother. She keeps saying she thinks she should walk me because she was the only one that has been there for me my whole life, which she has. I just feel that a man should give the bride away but she thinks I’m being mean.
Post # 3
Based on your story, I think you should walk with your mom. Just my opinion. Of course it’s your day and you should walk with whomever will make you feel the most loved and special. Could you honor the other relatives in a different way during the wedding instead? Like having them do a reading?
Post # 5
I have always imagined my that in my wedding I would be walked by a guy (my stepfather was always in that roll but that is now out of the question). I have thought about walking my self but I feel I might need support.
Post # 6
I vote for your mom as well, but if I had to choose a man, it would be your grandpa 🙂
Post # 7
You can do what ever you want, but honestly your mom is the one who has been with you and supported your entire life. I was just at a wedding where the bride was close to being in the same boat you are and her mother walked her down the isle. I don’t think you should base your decision on a persons sex but rather their role and impact in your life.
Post # 8
How about you walk by yourself or with your FI? My husband and I walked together, hand in hand. We liked the symbolism that we were presenting ourselves to each other, facing our marriage together as equals.
Post # 9
Perhaps you could have grandpa on one side, dad on the other, and do the rose thing to honor your mother and FI`s mom.
Post # 10
based on the story – your mom – unless you aren’t close with her
Post # 11
I vote for your Mom! However if you really want to be walked by a male family member I would go with Grandpa. I’m sure given the situation and him knowing you arent close with your birth father he wouldnt be offened at all, infact he’d probably be delighted!
Post # 12
I also vote for your Mom, but could you be walked by both your Grandpa and your mom?
Post # 13
I know this wasn’t part of the options you listed, but I vote for Mom as well.