Post # 1
My daughter is getting married in 6 weeks. The groom is wearing an ivory shirt and an ivory tie and the groomsmen are wearing ivory shirts and black ties. My daughter wants her father to wear an ivory shirt with an ivory tie to match the groomsmen. The father of the bride (my husband) hates the idea of an ivory shirt and would like to wear a bright white shirt with a black tie. Neither wants to give in and both are upset with the other. I am torn between wanting to make my daughter happy on her wedding day and thinking the FOB is not asking for much if he would be more comfortable in a white shirt. He is paying for the wedding. Please help decide this argument.
Post # 3
The rest of the bridal party is wearing ivory shirts. I don’t understand why it’s such a big deal for the FOB to wear an ivory shirt for a handful of hours to make his daughter happy. Such a silly thing to fight about!
Post # 4
I think the white shirt while the rest of the wedding party is wearing Ivory may make the Ivory shirts look yellowed. That being said, if all the shirts are Ivory people may just assume that they are white shirts with since their woudl be nothing to compare them to.
Really, it boils down to this – it’s just a shirt, the color difference is pretty negligible. Someone needs to compromise. I think I would side with the bride on this one, personally.
Post # 5
I think it’s a petty thing to be arguing over. Even if he hates ivory it’s only for one day and that’s a pretty small favor for your daughter to ask. If he wears a white shirt it will clash in photos if you have any with the groom or groomsmen. If her dress is an off white or ivory color that will look even more strange.
Well it could be worse I guess. My Future Sister-In-Law had to argue with my FI’s dad about him wanting to wear a cammo tux to her wedding. They decided to compromise and he got a cammo vest under his tux jacket.
Post # 6
If the father of the bride wears a white shirt next to all of those ivory shirts, it will make the ivory look yellow or dirty in pictures. I would have tried to convince the bride against the ivory to begin with but now that it’s done I vote that She wins.
Post # 7
Her father should wear the ivory shirt. Ivory on its own looks lovely. Ivory next to white will look yellow.
Think about it this way… he only has to wear the shirt for one day, but she will have to look at the pictures for the rest of her life!
Post # 8
She isnt asking him to wear any strange color or really weird tie I think he should just go with the flow of the wedding. I am sure the lsst thing he wants is to look back a photos and remember a fight over a shirt. Plus he would be upset if he ruined the ohotos over his shirt choice
Post # 9
It might be a silly thing, but some people are bent on wearing certain things at certain events, so if his is a white shirt, let him wear a white shirt with black tie, he’s paying for the wedding! What’s the big deal? It’s not like he’s asking to dress like Don Cherry!
Post # 10
The FOB is not in the bridal party and as I see it the bride is not able to control what he wears any more than the she can control what any other guest wears.
That said, since the discussion’s already happened, there’s no way the FOB (your husband) could possibly wear the white shirt with a black tie without knowing the whole time that it is expressly not what the bride wants/wanted.
I love that you included no less than 3 examples. You’re so funny.
Post # 11
I guess it’s all in the perspective. If a father is walkingn his daughter down I consider him to be a part of the bridal party. I’ve never been to a wedding wear the FOB did not match the rest of the bridal party in some fashion. For instance, if the groomsmen and groom wear tuxes the FOB usually wears a tux. In that case if the FOB chose to wear something different because he hates tuxes it would look really silly. Obviously way more extreme than what the OP is talking about, but I can’t think of a better way to word my example at the moment.
Post # 12
Oh OP are they wearing tux or suit jackets too? That could make a big difference in the argument. If they are wearing jackets over their shirts then the shirt color may be much less noticeable. If it’s just the shirts and ties then the color will really stand out.
ETA: Huh I’m not sure how helpful we will all be! The poll is 50/50 at the moment. I’ve never seen on that even on here…
Post # 13
@GreenDream: I love that you included no less than 3 examples. You’re so funny.
I could’ve included more… hee hee!
Post # 15
I don’t really think this should be “bride vs dad,” that’s making it into a big fight over such a petty thing. if every other male that’s part of the wedding is wearing ivory and he wears white, it won’t look good. I’m assuming her dress is ivory. He should match. It’s not like she wants him to be in a tank top or something really strange here. Does he have a good reason why he refuses to match?
Post # 16
I voted. But I also wanted to send along patience and positive vibes to you, the peacemaker. Hang in there!