Post # 17
Someone has to compromise and as the parent (and not the bride) I do think it should be the father. I really think he should just suck it up to make his daughter happy, honestly. She will have those pictures for the rest of her life and seeing as the argument already happened I think it will make your daughter feel happy and loved to know her father compromised on something for her that he didn’t want to.
Post # 18
I think FOB should get to wear what he wants. He’s not asking to wear something outrageous that is going to really make a difference at all and he’s footing the bill. In My Humble Opinion he should be able to wear what he wants.
Post # 19
He should compromise. If everyone else is wearing the ivory, it will stand out. He will be in at least a few pics with his new son-in-law and it will look bad.
It’s such a petty thing, I can’t believe it’s an argument…..but I’m siding with the bride because the Father-In-Law being the only one in a different shirt will be noticable.
Post # 20
It seems really strange to me that FOB would care about the color of his shirt. Really? Most guys don’t care about that stuff, and why would he argue with his daughter about it on the most important day of her life?
P.S. Don Cherry RULES!
Post # 21
oh, Maureen – are you getting married or is your daughter? Your other post implied that you are the one getting married.
maureen0907 (message) July 14, 2012
Ok, I love the venue we picked. It is a country club. The cocktail hour will be in this room with a HUGE mahongany bar with hightops spread around for people to place their drinks and appetizers. The bar is gorgeous and was one of the reasons we really liked the venue. After the cocktail hour, the guests will be ushered into the ballroom where the reception will take place. I am concerned that many of my guests will spend the evening drinking at the bar outside the ballroom instead of dancing. The manager said he can put a makeshift bar in the ballroom but unless we shut down the mahogany bar, I don’t think that will solve the issue and my fiance does not want to shut it down. He said it was one of the main reasons he liked the venue. Thoughts?
Post # 22
I think FOB should wear whatever he likes, as long as it’s respectful of the event. Unless he’s in the wedding party, it’s rude to tell someone else what to wear.
Post # 23
Sorry, this is ridiculous on dad’s part.
The bride probably chose ivory dresses because her dress is ivory. Especially for brides wearing darker ivory dresses, a lot of brides have the men wear ivory shirts so the dress doesn’t look yellowed or dirty when she stands next to her groom after he takes off his jacket (ie, for dances). She may want the same from her father for when she dances with him.
Honestly, I don’t see why it should be that big a deal to dad. When he has the tux on, no one will be able to tell anyway unless he stands next to something stark white.
Post # 24
I don’t understand the bees here… the father wants to wear a WHITE shirt. He probably thinks an ivory shirt is a “dirty” shirt. This is a wedding and formal affair, so he is probably old-fashioned and white shirts are the way to go for special events for his age group. At least she gets a father at her wedding, I don’t have my father nor my stepfather and if I did I wouldn’t give a darn about the color of his shirt… I would be glad he was there!
Post # 25
Well at least this is the biggest issue you’re having lol I think FOB can wear an ivory shirt for a few hours. It won’t kill him.
Post # 26
but by wearing the white shirt, he’ll make all the other men’s shirts look dirty and informal. And the same goes when he (presumably) dances with his daughter in her (presumably) ivory dress.
And no need to throw guilt at the poor girl just because your father(s) weren’t there. Someone always has bigger problems than we do.
Post # 27
I know, but this shouldn’t be an argument. It’s not a fashion statement unless they’re going to be in a magazine or something… 🙂
Post # 28
the fob should wear what he wants but does the bride feel that he will clash with her dress? i’m sure there won’t be a lot of photos with the fob and all of the groomsmen.
this shouldn’t be an arguement. what a ridiculous thing to waste energy on. have you heard the saying, “pick your battles”? i’m sorry that you’re stuck in the middle of this.
Post # 29
Would the FOB feel better about wearing an ivory shirt and a black tie instead of an ivory tie? That way they’d both “win” and the ivory shirts wouldn’t look yellow compared to the white shirt.
Post # 30
It’s a stupid shirt, both of them should concede over a dumb argument.
Post # 31
I’m kind of surprised by how many people are siding with the bride on this. The FOB is PAYING for the wedding! He’s the host – he should be able to wear what he wants to wear.
My dad is also paying for my wedding and I would bend over backwards to meet any request he made. It’s the very least I can do. Aside from footing the bill, he’s my dad. The man who raised me. He wants to wear a white shirt, let him wear a white shirt.