(Closed) Who speaks at the wedding reception?

posted 6 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
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Bumble bee

I’ve been to weddings where just the best man & Maid/Matron of Honor give speaches, and I’ve been to them where everyone does it.  

The one I went too where everyone gave a speach made it really long and boring for the guest, there were about 8 people who stood up, and each of them took a few minutes and only talked about inside jokes with the bridal party.  It was about a half hour of awkwardness and eventually most of the guests ignored the speaches at the end.

Post # 4
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

It can get really boring for guests if lots of people speak. If more people have things to say, they can do it at the rehearsal dinner. Many people have an open mic at the rehearsal dinner (provided it’s not in a restaurant) for anyone to speak.

We had speeches by the FoB, MoH, Bridesmaid or Best Man, and groom + the FoG gave the blessing. That took long enough. I can’t imagine having asked my guests to sit through much more.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I’ve been to weddings that had an “open mic” for everyone who wanted to speak. I found that it slowed the reception down a bit, since it can go on for a while and it’s not like anyone can dance, or even have a conversation, while the series of toasts are going.

We did this at our rehearsal dinner instead, and loved it. After dinner, my Father-In-Law spoke, and then my dad, and brother, and the best man, and Maid/Matron of Honor, and me, and Darling Husband and a couple others. It was smaller, and more intimate, and was perfect for us.

Some people really love having all the speeches at the wedding. I preferred the rehearsal dinner. People do want to have a chance to speak openly how they feel about you, and it really is lovely, so just decide when and where, and let them.

(And then record it! We didn’t record ours, and I wish we had)

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Our best people spoke, and so did my dad. We gave a little two second thank you, otherwise, the rest of the speeches (one of my bridesmaids, one of my husbands groomsmen, and my MIL) were during the rehearsal dinner.

 

Post # 7
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

PS, if you need leverage against your Fiance to convince him not to do it at the wedding, you can always show him the reception open mic scene from Twilight: Breaking Dawn Part 1.

Post # 8
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2014

I haven’t been to too many weddings, but I don’t think there is a set pattern. It’s whatever the couple wants.

Post # 10
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

If we do the traditional wedding route, I would have Fh and I stand up and thank everyone for coming and that would be it. 

Post # 11
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

Most weddings I’ve been to have just had speeches from the couple, parents and best people. I have been to one that had an open mic and I actually thought it was really nice, but I think part of that was that particular crowd. Do what you want and your bridesmaids will get over it!

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I have been to a few weddings where everyone had something to say *YAWN* most of the guests ignored everythign and were looking really bored and quite fatigued. 

For our wedding i’d be lucky for the groom to stand up and say thanks lol

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I would let anyone speak that wants to say something. It’s not about all the guests. I think you should appreicate that they want to say something to you and your Fiance. Even if it is all inside jokes. I actually think it’s rude that you would ask them to be your BM’S but they are not important enough to have two or three minutes to say a few words?

Post # 14
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

No one.  My reception will be absolutely silent.

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I think the Maid/Matron of Honor, Bridesmaid or Best Man, and parent(s)

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