Post # 1
What was your experience sleeping together (just sleeping or more) the night before the wedding? What about spending the morning and/or getting ready together? If your wedding hasn’t happened yet but you’re planning on doing any of this, what’s your reasoning?
Please help me keep this thread judgment free! I know all of the above is “non-traditional” but people have excellent reasons for breaking tradition, even if that reason is simply, “because I wanted to.”
I always assumed my fiancee and I would spend the time apart in order to build up excitement, but I want to be open to all options.
Post # 2
I wanted to do this as I think it would keep me calm on the morning of and also I want to skip any traditions I don’t care for. However the wedding is in my home town and I know my mom would love me to sleep at my childhood home the night before and since I only see her a few times a year I think the least I could do is keep this tradition for her.
I’m all for couples doing their own thing and staying together the night before!
Post # 3
My DH and I didn’t change our routine on the day of. We spent the night together, got my kids out the door to school same as usual, had sex same as usual…We attended my older son’s grade commencement ceremony together, then wentand had lunch and a couple’s massage together. I went and got my hair and makeup done while he ran some errands, and we met back at the house to go to the venue together. I enjoyed spending the day with him – being with the love of my life, living our life, was what the day was about to me.
Post # 4
We plan to spend the night together! We live together (and will have been living together for 4 years at that point) so we’re use to snuggling at night. Honestly, we have trouble sleeping apart now. And I love the idea of waking next to each other on our wedding day. 🙂 We will separate to get ready, though!
Post # 5
We rented a cabin and had no intention of wasting our money by not staying there together. We actually didn’t have sex at all before we got married, but were perfectly comfortable with each other, seeing as we already lived together. It was like any other night really. The next morning was like any other day except that we had a lot of work to do. We got up, had breakfast with our families and got our reception set up because we were holding it prior to the wedding ceremony (lunch bbq, sunset wedding, dessert after). Fun day; I don’t really see any reason to hold on to traditions that make it more of a pain in the neck, like hiding from my fiancé would have done.
Post # 6
We live together, so we slept in the same bed as usual. I went to the hairdresser to get my hair done. DH was running late as usual and thought everything would take him less time than it did. I guess that was the only issue with us being together the morning before—I was stressed about how slowly he was getting his stuff together.
Post # 7
We shared a lovely hotel room the night before the wedding – never even considered spending the night apart as we had been living together for ages. It was also nice waking up and having breakfast together. We then got ready separately so there was still an element of surprise.
Post # 8
We spent the night and morning of together, but got ready separately and did a first look.
Post # 9
We are planning on going more traditional and staying apart after rehearsal dinner. Not really for traditions sake but because we each have family and friends we want to spend time with before an early bed time. This way I can see my out of town guests and he can hang with his groomsmen ( some of whom are out of state) and we can both still get to bed at a reasonable time.
That and I might not be happy to see him sleeping I when I’m up early to get to the venue. 🙂
Post # 10
We’re having an intimate ceremony in another state and renting a cabin for the whole family so we saw no need to not spend the night or morning together. We are having a morning ceremony and driving to the location in different cars, but we think it’s a bit more romantic sharing the moments and excitement before we actually get married.
Post # 11
We spent the night and most of the morning together. For me, I didn’t see the point in not staying together as normal, as the wedding was in the town we lived in. We also had a guest staying with us for that night. We spent most of the morning separate, but that wasn’t intentional, it just happened that way.
Post # 12
My husband and I stayed the night together and got ready together.
Post # 13
We’re planning to spend the night together, I think. A few of my bridesmaids want to get a hotel room together and hang out the night before the wedding, which will be fun, but we both have trouble sleeping without each other, so I’ll probably just hang out with them until it’s time to sleep, then go sleep with my Fiance in our own hotel room. Plus I just want to be able to cuddle my Fiance the night before we get married.
We’re also going to have breakfast together, probably with a lot of the wedding party as well. Haven’t really planned that out exactly, but I definitely want to at least have breakfast together before we go our separate ways to get ready.
The one thing I want to do separately is get ready. I want the first time he sees me in my dress and veil to be when I’m walking down the aisle.
Post # 14
We stayed together and spent the morning of our wedding together, though we did get ready separately so that I could get ready with my girlfriends, and then met up at the venue. We sleep better when we’re together, so we didn’t really see a reason not to.
Post # 15
We had been living together for almost 7 years by the time we got married, so honestly being separate didn’t even occur to us. We went to the rehearsal and rehearsal dinner, went to bed relatively early, then woke up early and went to go get breakfast together before we separated to start getting ready. It was nice to have a bit or normality and quiet with just the two of us before all the chaos started.