Who spent/will spend the night before/morning of together?

posted 2 years ago in Traditions
Post # 16
139 posts
Blushing bee

We live together and will be staying a hotel five minutes from the church two days before the cermony.  I love the idea of waking up with the love of my life on our wedding day. We will have breakfast together and spend the morning together and he will leave when the hair and make up people arrive.  When I am done he will go back to change and I will walk to the church and dress there.  But we will not have sex the night before the wedding.

Post # 17
991 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

We stayed together the night before our wedding. It helped me be less anxious!

We did go our separate ways in the morning though. Lucky for him, he got to go back to sleep while I had to start hair and makeup lol.

Post # 18
2191 posts
Buzzing bee

We stayed at home together the night before the wedding.  We picked up the cake together in the morning and then DH dropped me off to get ready and went off doing his own thing and getting ready until our “first look”.

Post # 19
717 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2019 - City, State

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everwoods :  My wedding is August 2019. My plan is I am renting a nice air bnb for the night before and the night of my wedding.

The night prior to wedding: I will stay in the home and invite my bridesmaids to join me. I thought about inviting Moms as well, but decided I wanted it to be just the girls and I. We’ll probably do a few last minute DIY things and just have dinner and drinks together. They can stay over (I plan to have a place with multiple bedrooms) and then in the morning we can have breakfast together and get ready. I think mums and Brides famiyl will come join us at the house around lunchtime.

Night of the wedding, obviously my fiance and I. However, I am also debating renting the air bnb for an additional night, so the day afetr our weddign we can host the post-wedding brunch for out of towners without having to reserve a restaurant or anything along those lines.

Its gonna be totally hard for me to sleep alone without my fiance, since we’ve been sleeping int he same bed together for 7 years now. But I think it will make the moment we see eachother at the wedding that much more special.

Post # 20
1395 posts
Bumble bee

We spent the night together in our hotel room near the venue (got married in a county park about 45 minutes away from our home). We had a stressful trip to the hotel (car issues, forgot dress and suit, etc) and by the time we checked in we were exhausted and overwhelmed. It was nice to be able to use eachother’s company to calm down and get good energy back for the morning. Plus, the sex the night before was great!

The morning of the wedding we went over to my parents’ hotel room and had breakfast with them and my brother. It was an amazing way to celebrate with just our close family before sharing the day with everyone else. After breakfast we went back to our hotel room and got ready together. It was like every other morning for us. It was nice to have our wedding day feel like a normal day for the two of us.

I wouldn’t change a thing about our morning.

Post # 22
364 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2019

We live together, and will be sleeping together the night before! Our wedding isn’t until late evening, so we plan to wake up leisurely and have a nice breakfast so we feel relaxed and can share in our excitement of the day! I’ll head to my parents’ house to get ready with the bridesmaids around noon, and he and his grromsmen may or may not get ready there too (if so, they’ll do so in a different part of the house). This just makes sense for our schedule and our preferences. We’re doing a first look photo shoot in the forest behind my parents house before we head to our venue, so it makes sense for everyone to be there together. I  also have anxiety and I feel like with all the excitement and nervous energy of the wedding day, a big change from my routine the night before might trigger a panic attack. I’ll feel more relaxed if I can spend a nice night with my love and wake up next to him. I can definitely see the appeal for others though in having that separate time to build anticipation and such. So just do what’s right for you!

Post # 23
563 posts
Busy bee

We had so many family and friends in town that we did something different with everyone each night… So we spent the night and evening together. It was a whirlwind week where we just partied and enjoyed being around everyone we loved – Wednesday – Tuesday!

Post # 24
637 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2019

Personally, because our venue was “made for a wedding” and has a huge bridal party suite that sleeps 6 and has individual dressing areas etc I’m spending the night there with my bridesmaids, BUT if we didn;t opt for that I would have spent the night with my fiance. I don’t see anything wrong with this option. Do what’s good for you guys. A part of me wants to spend the night with my fiance then go to the bridal party suite to get ready but my girls really wanna have the night together before and I’m excited for that too but I love my man and can never sleep soundly without him in my bed! So there’s my rambling train of thought on it but in summary you guys do you! 

Post # 25
2657 posts
Sugar bee

We spent the night together the night before. We did get ready separately, but then we did a ‘first look’ – mainly just to get some time together before the wedding and get some photos done before. 

We lived together already and we hadn’t slept apart in almost two years. Plus we’re both anxious people and I’m a terrible sleeper so if we’d slept apart I probably wouldn’t have slept much. It was actually really fun to go through all the build up together. He also calms me down a lot so it took a lot of the pressure off. 

I think it totally depends on the person. I’m anxious and a private person, so adding to the build up was the very opposite of my goal, but I get why some people like to add to the anticipation. 

Post # 26
37 posts
  • Wedding: July 2018

We spent the night before together and had breakfast in the morning with our families. We took over the whole lodge for our group so actually did end up having empty room available but really didn’t see a reason to separate. Just as we were all heading to bed my Mom suddenly realised we were going to be spending the night together and tried to convince me to do it differently! yell

He used the empty room to get ready in after breakfast which worked really well. 

Post # 27
851 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2019

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everwoods :  As of now we are planning on eloping in Hawaii. That being said, no matter where we got married I can’t imagine not spending the night before together. We both don’t sleep well without one another (he has a harder time with it than I do). I’m currently thinking that we will wake up and go to brunch and then go back to our condo in Hawaii which happens to be two bedrooms and get ready in seperate rooms. Still working on logistics but as of now I’m hoping the photographer could pick me up and that he could meet us at the beach for our ceremony so that I could still have that “first look” moment. 

Post # 28
1144 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2018 - UK

We lived together before getting married, but we ended up spending the night before apart, purely for practicality reasons.

Our wedding was in a hotel, and I wanted to be there in the morning so there was someone supervising the setup, greeting the suppliers, etc. I hate travelling, and although it was only 30 minutes from home, I hated the idea of being sat in a car in my wedding dress, panicking and worrying about traffic. My husband stayed home so there was someone to look after the cat, then he met up with the best woman and came to get ready in another part of the hotel.

It worked out quite nicely, I was far less stressed. I got to have breakfast with my family and bridesmaid, and I also ended up meeting another couple who were also getting married that day. It was a really nice start to the day.

Post # 29
17 posts
  • Wedding: June 2018 - Beautiful Barn

We spent the night apart.


We do live together but our venue had a beautiful house for the bridal party to stay in the night before so I stayed there with my parents and sister, while he stayed at home with my sister’s fiance. It was really talked about, just assumed that we would be apart and that house was part of why we loved our venue so much – was perfect the morning of to get ready in and I personally didn’t fancy travelling anywhere the morning of!

I think even if the venue didn’t offer the house option, we’d have spent the night before apart!

Post # 30
1053 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

We spent the night together at the hotel.  It never occurred to us not to.  I sleep better when we share the same bed.  We didn’t get ready together because I booked professional hair and makeup in town.  

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