Who spent/will spend the night before/morning of together?

posted 10 months ago in Traditions
Post # 31
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

We chose to stay together the night before, but we didn’t spend the morning together.  We really value being able to sleep in the same bed, so that was something we didn’t want to give up for tradition.  We didn’t spend much of the morning together.  I had to be at the venue earlier than him for hair and makeup, so I left much earlier than him.  He didn’t want to see anything about my hair, make up, or dress before we met at the alter, so we didn’t see each other once I left the hotel. 

Ultimately, I don’t think it would have mattered if we saw each other the morning of because everything was so hectic, and he was too busy laughing because the music got messed up while I was walking down the aisle, that he didn’t get that overwhelming reaction to me walking down the aisle he thought he would.  In fact, if I had to do it again, I would have done first look pictures and spent some of the morning together instead.  There were some not so awesome things that happened that morning and I would have liked to have him there to deal with them together.  

Post # 32
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: City, State

I wanted us to be apart. The plan was for him to stay at our house and I would stay at my mom’s where I was getting ready. But I was so tired after running around all day that I wanted to stay in my own bed. My husband was okay with either choice.

So I ended up getting up before him and leaving the house just before he woke up. Close enough.

Post # 33
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2019 - City, State

Fiance and I plan to stay at home the night before, go out to breakfast at the restaurant we had our first date (that was actually breakfast as well) and then go about our business. 

Post # 34
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Busy bee

My first wedding I got a hotel room for me and my bridesmaids and we stayed together, I didn’t see my ex-husband until walking down the aisle. When my Boyfriend or Best Friend and I do it, though, I definitely want to stay together, get breakfast together with our bridal party, and then separate to get ready I think.

Post # 35
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2019

We are planning to spend the night before the wedding together for several reasons, the main one being that my fiance has PTSD and occasionally has nightmares/night terrors (the frequency has decreased a lot since we got together, but it still happens). Sleeping next to me calms him and greatly reduces the chances of night terrors, and he sleeps a lot better with me. Obviously, I want him to be well-rested for the next day!

Likewise, I also sleep better next to him. I’m afraid that my anxiety will keep me up the night before the wedding if I’m by myself, whereas I’ll be able to relax more if we’re with each other. Overall, I think spending the night together will help calm both our nerves. 

However, we won’t really be spending the morning together. I’ll probably leave early to go get hair and makeup started and let him sleep in a bit more. We won’t see each other again until I’m coming down the aisle.

Post # 36
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 29th, 2016

everwoods :  I thought it was incredibly special to go to bed together the night before the wedding as fiances, and wake up together knowing that we’d soon be husband and wife. 

We also had a totally nontraditional wedding all together and got married on Good Morning America. They flew us out to NYC and paid for everything, including our hotel room. So we didn’t feel the need to book a second room. 

Post # 37
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Busy bee

I defintely want to spend the night before and have breakfast together. I’m an anxious person and dislike having the spotlight on me and for some odd reason my family (mom and sister in particular) turn that anxiety into frustration even if I can acknowledge that they’re taking the appropriate steps to calm a person down but FH’s presence itself keeps me calm and I might not need it but just in case I do wake up as a little ball of anxiety having that moment with just me and him is really going to help me get through the day.

Post # 38
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2019 - Turkey

Turkish bee here. We will definitely not spend the night before together. Although not 100% certain yet, there will be a girl’s henna night before the wedding day. 

Post # 39
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Helper bee

We wanted to spend the night together! We had been living together for 4 years by the time our wedding came around, so it wasn’t a big deal. But my bridesmaids decided to have a slumber party at the hotel the night before for me, so we ended up being apart.  It was actually kind of nice and a little thrilling! I was so excited to see him by the time the actual ceremony came around that I actually hugged him as soon as I got down to the alter lol! 

Post # 40
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2018

We spent the night before and part of the morning together! We got ready separately, so we were apart for about an hour and a half before. 

Post # 41
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Busy bee

Yes planning to spend the night and mornring together but will separate to get ready then meet up with family and close friends for photos and drinks before 3pm ceremony.

we will already be living together. 

I’m not overly traditional. It will be nice to have a nice normal morning hanging out and having and early breakfast – even if only for an hour or two. I want everything to be as relaxed as possible. Then nice to have some quality time with my family after for a couple of hours as well before a “first look” type meet.

Pretty easy going however so it’s all still subject to change!

Post # 42
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2018 -  

We’ve decided to spend the night together, but he’ll be off to set up the venue in the morning while I get ready in the house. We thought about doing the traditional not-seeing-each-other thing, but then that would probably stress us out more, because that’s one more thing to worry about for the day!

He’s also seen me in my wedding dress many times so there wouldn’t be any surprises there.

Post # 43
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

We slept apart, but got ready together and drove together. 

Post # 44
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

We spent the night together at home. We were both too excited to sleep and woke up at 4:30 in the morning and we started talking and then he tackled me and said, “We’re getting married today!!!” It was so funny and sweet. We got ready together and it was very calm and nice and then we drove together to pictures and then to the ceremony.

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