(Closed) Who takes care of the pets in your relationship?

posted 4 years ago in Pets
  • poll: Who primarily takes care of your pets?
    I do. : (53 votes)
    27 %
    SO does. : (7 votes)
    4 %
    We both share. : (121 votes)
    61 %
    It depends. : (13 votes)
    7 %
    Other - please elaborate. : (3 votes)
    2 %
  • Post # 3
    850 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    We have two dogs and we share roles! I do get up with the dogs first thing in the morning so DH can get to his workout. If I want to sleep in, I just ask nicely (as nicely as I can at 6am, before my eyes are open!) and DH will do it. We usually walk the dogs together in the evening, but if one person gets dinner going, the other will walk them. On the days the puppy isn’t in daycare, I come home from lunch time to let him out. DH takes the puppy to daycare because it’s close to his work. No one is solely responsible for taking them to the vet, the person who can fit the appointment in is the one who takes them.

    It sure is nice when our spouses volunteer to help us out, but sometimes we just need to speak up and kindly ask for help once in a while. 🙂

    Post # 4
    887 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2010

    DH is in charge of water (we have a giant water dish that is too heavy for me to lift while pregnant– it’s one of those ones that provides a weeks worth of water). I usually take on feeding our dogs, but it’s me that wants them on a diet 😉 DH feeds our cats (again, a giant week long supply of food). DH takes care of setting out their weekly pills in one of those pill boxes. We split letting them out for bathroom breaks, but DH never scoops up poop in the yard. Overall, pretty down the middle 🙂 I would get cranky if he didn’t help out at all or if I had to ask him all the time!

    Post # 5
    699 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    We have a cat and I take care of the litter box, while FH and I both take care of food and water (depending upon who wakes up first). 

    Since I do the litter box, FH does all of the vacuuming in the house. He dislikes doing the former, while I dislike doing the latter. Pretty even trade in our book. 

    Post # 6
    2550 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    we have a dog and we share, however we got her together. i think that if he had had a pet by the beggining of our relationship, he’d be taking more care of it, and viceversa

    Post # 7
    1090 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    FI had a dog before we met and then we took on a new one together. I had a cat before we met and he still lives with us. As far as feeding, FI feeds mornings and I feed nights. Generally, FI takes care of vet appointments for the dogs and I do for the cats but I took the new dog for his first shots/neuter. 

    I also have a horse and take care of everything for her. Eventually we will probably get another horse for FI but I think I would still basically pay/do everything for new horse.

    Post # 8
    1896 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I do. Every now and then he will take them(2 pups) out… most of the time is when he gets home at 7 am so i dont have to get up. But when it comes to making vet appts, haircuts, baths, anything else.. I Do it.. Honestly… i wanted the dogs.. so i just took on all the responsibilities..

    Post # 9
    503 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2014

    We have 2 cats, which were mine before we met. I take care of the litter box but he probably feeds them more than I do and he always makes sure they have fresh water.

    Post # 10
    1348 posts
    Bumble bee

    I buy the food and kitty litter 90% of the time because I’m the one with a car. We alternate who cleans the litter box. He usually fills the bowls in the morning and I check them when I get home at night.

    Post # 11
    11273 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2009

    DH and his children had our dog long before I arrived on the scene. When the kids are with us (50 percent of the time), they alternate days caring for our dog.  When they’re not here, I tend to take care of him in the morning and during the day, while DH takes him out for his last trip late at night.

    However, DH is the one who is used to having animals, and he is the primary caretaker in terms of overseeing our dog’s health and wellness. He purchases the dog food and treats, takes our dog to the vet and groomer, and administers any non-routine medical care. I have no trouble giving our dog his daily pills in his food, but DH is the one who forces the big antibiotic pills down our dog’s throat and cleans his ears, etc.

    Post # 12
    409 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 2013

    We’ve got three dogs, two guinea pigs, four gerbils and two fish. I care for all of them apart from the fish (as he wanted them). He will let the dogs out if he’s up first, or he’ll feed them if I’m at work (they get fed at set times so if I’m not there he knows they haven’t eaten). 

    But general day to day things, paying for the things they need and keeping on top of treatments etc comes down to me. 

    Post # 13
    945 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I do. i brought the cat into the relationship, so it seems fair. DH isn’t much of an animal person, but he’ll help out if he notices the food or water getting low. And he’s the primary treat- giver. but I clean the litter box, give her medicine, brush, and clip her claws. 

    Post # 14
    10454 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2014

    Me me me. I have had cats all my life and when we got Luke I knew I would be his primary mommy. My fiancé has grown to love him too and will take care of him when I’m gone, but in the one waking up at 3am to give him attention… I love it though.

    Post # 15
    1106 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I am. We have one cat ‘Roary’, well I’VE had him for 6 years and FH has been in his life for the last 3.5, and living with him for about 2 years.


    I’m the one who feeds him, scoops his litter, takes him to the vet, takes him for walks in our backyard. I’m the one that Roary will choose to sit on when we’re both on the couch. 

    Post # 16
    6361 posts
    Bee Keeper

    We both do different things. I deal more with training, food, water, fur, and nails.

    He deals more with… well… the poop

    So I wouldn’t trade.

    It works for us!

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