(Closed) “who the heck is THAT?”

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
2154 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I can totally relate. I am TERRIBLE at names and faces. I seriously think I’m in the 1st percentile of being able to remember people after meeting them once. 

The first thing you’ve got to do is get your Fiance to help you. Get him to stay close by, and say, “Oh, I don’t think you’ve met cousin George!” or “Hey, you remember my great aunt Monica, right?” He can also do it more subtly by addressing people by their names in front of you. If you’re close to anyone else in his family, you can ask them to do the same thing.

I’m as nervous about this as you are. My SO has a HUGE extended family (I don’t) that’s flying in for the wedding. We’re having a family BBQ the day before so everyone can meet each other, and I am just terrified. But I came up with a great plan! Since it’s a getting-to-know-you party, I’m going to make everyone wear funny nametags! Fun, cute, and easy peasy!

Post # 4
186 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

lol i understand you soooo much 

we have a sri lankan wedding which means 3 parties 

1st day we have about 150 guests i know about 60 of them

2nd day we have about 300 guests i know about 75/80 of them

3d day we have about 300 guests and i know about 75/80 of them 

it’s soooo awkward and i dunno what to do. I’m open to alll suggestions as well. 

Good luck 🙂

Post # 5
6824 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I am in the same boat if quite a few of FI’s realitives actually make the trip to our wedding (some of the drives would be over 10 hrs just to get to the wedding).  FI’s family is huge and I have barely met any of them.  I would just pardon yourself and say you are not good with faces and names. That usually does the trick.

Post # 6
464 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I have the same issue… and I live in the same town as alot of them now!! lol…

What me and Future Mother-In-Law are going to do (and this has alot to do with my coping with anxiety…) we are going through the pictures of past events and family gatherings so I can get refreshed before the wedding. Generally though the groom will be with you most the wedding, and you can ask him ahead of time to say something along the lines of “thank you uncle joe! jane and I appreciate you coming!” both your and the guests names get repeated and you can at lest most of the time have a free pass in remembering

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