Post # 1
i really want to keep my wedding simple. I don’t want a big bridal party. Initially I thought to keep it simple and just ask my sister, which I did! she’s my made of honor.. Now I am considering asking my close friend. I’m not sure what to do..!! she’s still a big part of my day, as she will be there througout.. Is it strange not to ask her?? What do I do?? If I ask her, then I’m afraid my future sisters in laws will be hurt because I didn’t ask them ( comments have been made:( I know its my wedding & should do what I feel is right, but I’m really torn!!
Post # 2
I had troubles with this too, I didn’t want to hurt people. I’m sure your friend will understand if you just have your sister, but if you would like her to be a bridesmaid by all means don’t feel obligated to ask your FSIL’s. If they end up helping with the wedding, make sure you get a nice thank you gift or something 🙂
I ended up with 3 friends (I have no siblings) in my bridal party and not my FH’s sisters, even though they are still important to me!
Post # 3
You ask the people you truly want in your wedding. You do not ask anyone you have qualms about – it will probably lead to issues down the road. You hope your in-laws have more class than to hold resentment about not being on your side of the bridal party. If your fiance wants them on his side, you gracefully have no problem with it.
Don’t let people push you around, it sets the stage for the rest of your life!
Post # 4
Keep it to who you personally would choose, regardless of outside pressure and obligation. You can involve your FSILs in other ways. They should in no way be expecting anything of you in regards to your bridal party because it’s an honor to be asked, not a right. If they say anything about it, just say you preferred to keep the bridal party very small but would love if they were involved with (some other aspect).
Post # 5
How many groomsmen is your Fiancée having? If you want to ask your friend go for it, it would be a nice gesture I’m sure she would appreciate it! It doesn’t mean you have to ask your fiancee’s sisters I wouldn’t ask them unless you are close with them and your fiancée has more groomsmen and you’d like to make it even/more even. But definitely don’t let anyone pressure you into it!
Post # 6
Originally I planned on my sister, niece & 2 close friends. My fiance & I decided that me & his sister weren’t that close & my brother lives in a different state so we wouldn’t do the whole each others siblings in the wedding party. My Future Mother-In-Law was a little upset that we weren’t including them so I decided to ask his sister. We’re still not doing my brother because he doesn’t even live anywhere close. 5 is more than I wanted honestly but its really not big deal to me either. In the end, what does it hurt