I have totally googled this ;)…and the number one thing that I keep seeing is:
…to not immediately rush to tell everyone right away! I read, have heard, and can imagine that the time right after getting engaged is very intimate/exciting/personal, etc. with your new fiance. It’s like the calm before the storm, or the lovey-dovey intimate moment before all the excitement and bussle of the phone calls, details, etc.
With that said, there is apparently an order that etiquette books might tell us to follow (who knew?). Of course I can’t remember 100%, but I’m pretty sure it’s something like this:
1. Bride’s parents
2. Groom’s parents
3. All siblings, family members, etc., even if you haven’t spoken to some of them for a while or aren’t quite as close.
4. Best friends so you can gush the deets
5. Good friends, distant friends
6. Acquaintances/friends/public- at work, on Facebook, through text messages, newspaper announcement, on the Times Square poster thing (He FINALLY proposed New York!!!!!) 😉
And then, apparently, if the parents haven’t met yet, it is customary for the bride’s parents to have the groom’s parents over for dinner, etc. shortly after the engagement.
I thought he was going to propose when my family was living in another state, and so after enjoying a good amount of time with just our little “secret,” I had originally planned to gather my parents and 3 siblings to the computer for a Skype session with a surprise 🙂 Now that my entire family has moved back, and I am still waiting to be engaged, I’m not sure how I/we will tell my/our parents and siblings yet. But I think I will afterwards call my grandma (SO calls her the “matriarch” hehe) to pass on the news to all my many aunts/uncles/cousins on my dad’s side and then my one aunt and probably my 3 cousins on my mom’s side. This all depends on the time difference and being able to catch everyone (my whole family except immediate lives in Australia). I then plan to nonchalantly gather my besties and my “regular gang” of girls to go out for dinner, where I will surprise them all at once with my announcement 🙂 If any of them can’t attend the “dinner,” I will call them personally beforehand to share the news. I’m sure my SO will call his close buddies, let them know he has officially attached the ball and chain, and then go to the pub.
I think my cousin actually told her parents, sister, and our grandma first, and that same day she put a simple FB message: Can’t answer the phone right now because I am engaged!!
PS I wouldn’t promise any bridal party decisions to anyone at first because there is too much craziness! A month before a friend of mine got engaged, she was telling us 5 girls who her BMs would be, with me included. You can imagine how crushed I was when I later found out that I wouldn’t be a Bridesmaid or Best Man (did she forget?)..