- 10 years ago
<p class=”MsoNormal”>I realize this is ultimately my decision, but I was hoping I could get some feedback on my bridesmaid situation. Throughout my life, I have tended towards having a group of people I am friends with and then one truly close friend with whom I share everything. For the last 5 years, my closest friend has been my fiancée. As a result, I tend to view my other friends as all being equally close with me. <p class=”MsoNormal”>The candidates: <p class=”MsoNormal”>Girls A and B- My two sisters who will be co maids of honor- They’ve already made it quite clear that they will not host or throw anything and have no real interest or enthusiasm for the wedding planning. That’s just how they are and I’ve come to terms with that, but with two of my other friends eagerly asking to throw me a bachelorette party and asking for the wedding details, I feel like I would be missing out on some of the fun had with sharing a special time of my life if I limit myself to just them. <p class=”MsoNormal”>The high school friends: <p class=”MsoNormal”>Girls 1,2,3- These are the girls I discussed being bridesmaids with and for long before I became engaged. I usually only see them several times a year (we live in different states) but we always make a point to meet up for a few girls night and when we do, we always talk for ages. These are also the girls who said some of the nicest things when I told them about my engagement. <p class=”MsoNormal”>Girl 1- I have been friends with her since middle school and she has always been a great friend who I have shared a lot with over the years <p class=”MsoNormal”>Girl 2- Friends since high school and of everyone I think she is hands down the most excited about the wedding (she is one of the people who wanted to throw me a bachelorette party) <p class=”MsoNormal”>Girl 3-A sweet girl although I am definitely less close with her then 1 and 2, since we always hang out together I would feel weird asking them without her <p class=”MsoNormal”>Girls C,D, E- My other set of high school friends. I tend to only seem them a few times a year, although I talk to them a more often. They definitely know me well. My relationship with them is a little more high school with a lot more cattiness in the group to the point where I sometimes get a little nervous about seeing them. On the other hand they have always been very supportive and when my fiancé recently went through a job scare (he worked a Lehman Brothers) they all made a point of getting in touch to see how things were going. <p class=”MsoNormal”>Girl C- (the other person to ask about throwing a bachelorette party). She can make pretty nasty comments when she wants to, so I’d be worried about stress she might cause me on my wedding day but also about her behavior if she was hurt. <p class=”MsoNormal”>Girl D- Very similar to girl C <p class=”MsoNormal”>Girl E- Friend since girl scouts. I think she would be the most hurt if she was not asked to be a bridesmaid but I also think it’s be hard to ask her without the others… <p class=”MsoNormal”>The college friend: <p class=”MsoNormal”>Girl 4- My closest friends from college/ roommate/ person I had all my classes with. <p class=”MsoNormal”>The grad school friend: <p class=”MsoNormal”>Girl F- Ok, this part is really embarrassing. Soon after my fiancé and I got engaged, some girlfriends and I went out for drinks and after one too many cocktails (I swear I haven’t drunk like that for many years before or since) I made a comment to one of the girls that she’d probably be one of my bridesmaids. I know, I know, bad drunk fiancée. I know she remembers this but I also think she’s rational enough to be understanding about it. It would however be nice to have some there who I see on a regular basis to bombarded- er um, discuss- planning with. <p class=”MsoNormal”>Aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaahhhhhhhhhhhhhhh. I realize most of you will not have read all of this- I’m not sure I would, but if you did, I would really love to hear your opinion on this. I realize I can make some people readers but how many and whom?!