- 5 years ago
- Wedding: December 2017
As background, my wedding party consists of 3 bridesmaids and 3 maids of honor (this is its own story). Two of my maids of honor have been working closely with my mom on planning my shower which will be held at my moms house (where I’m currently living, fiance lives in another state). The two MOHs have bought and sent invitations, decorations and party favors. My mother will be providing food, except she told the MOHs to delegate a fruit and vegetable tray to some of the other bridesmaids.
All but one of my bridesmaids and MOHs will be at the shower, the other is my sister in law that lives 2 states away and isn’t coming.
My question is, who do I give a hostess gift to? I’m not sure if my two MOHs have paid for everything out of their pockets, or if they collected money from others. I’m not sure exactly who is sharing time and money costs on planning my shower, except I know for sures my mother and those 2 MOHs. I wanted to give like a $20 gift. I was originally budgeting that much for the 5 in the wedding party that will be there.
Is it rude to just give the 2 a gift, or would it be like a slap in the face to those two that planned most things if i gave everyone a hostess gift (because i dont want to assume they didnt do anything)??