(Closed) Who to invite?

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Invite
    Yes : (5 votes)
    45 %
    No : (6 votes)
    55 %
  • Post # 3
    2201 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I don’t think you should feel obligated to invite them if they weren’t on your original list. Hopefully newlyweds will be more understanding because they were just involved in guest list drama and know that you can’t invite everyone you’d like to and still stay on budget/fit into your venue.

    Post # 4
    1580 posts
    Bumble bee

    I don’t think you are obligated to invite them. But I still voted yes because I would still feel obligated.

    I think it also depends on the location and type of wedding. If it is clear that your wedding is a small family thing, then no one should get offended. But if it seems like you are inviting everyone but that couple, they might be offended.

    Post # 5
    610 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2009

    It really depends on the sizes/types of their and your weddings and the relationship between you and them.

    As an  example, if you’re having an intimate wedding while they have a huge wedding where everybody they’ve ever contacted in their lives were invited. No.

    If you are not very close to them and/or if you and they barely interact/ see each other in the past 6 months, no.

    That being said, it’s often a courtesy (& not an etiquette rule) to “return” invitations if above circumstances do not apply. However, no point going broke or taking out a loan for a  rule that doesn’t exist.

    Post # 6
    2015 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2009

    I definitely have a strong belief that you shouldn’t ever invite someone “just because they invited you to theirs.” I think that’s silly. I mean, if you have the space, and it doesn’t matter monetarily, invite them. But don’t go out of your way and stretch your dollars to cover their cost.

    Post # 7
    4001 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I don’t think etiquette dictates that you have to invite them if they’ve invited you but, I couldn’t do it.  I got invited to a wedding that I never saw coming.  It was someone that I was friends with years ago and we really hadn’t spoken in a long time.  So, since she invited me and I attended, I feel a need to invite her as well.  I guess you just do what you’re comfortable with.

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