(Closed) who to invite?

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
987 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

I certainly wouldn’t be following your BMs idea as you already stated that you personally don’t care for every person. 

I think you are over-concerned.  Simply invite the people you want to, politely request that they don’t mention it to anyone else at the school and move on.  If anyone else has the hide to ask if they’re getting an invite, politely tell them that it’s a small wedding so unfortunately not. 

Post # 4
1068 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

Fiance is a teacher (and I used to be one too) so I understand what you are saying. That being said, this is not unlike other jobs of working on a big team. I do not think that you should invite someone to your wedding if the primary reason is that you do not want to hurt their feelings – that sounds more like their own issue then ours. You should keep it consistent within circles (for all invitations, really) so that it’s the same. 

I don’t know if you work in an elementary or secondary school, but you should figure out if you are able to invite a group of people in the same circle – like grade level or department. Most times I’ve attending a work wedding was when the bride/groom was in my department and she/he invited us all. 

This same sentiment should exist for other circles like friends, relatives etc. Again, you should focus on inviting those who you want at your wedding, not specifically those who will be hurt if they are not invited.

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