Post # 1
So my fiance and I are trying to keep our guest list to 150. I figured it was fair if I invited 75 and he invited 75. The problem is with my friends and family my list comes to 105 so I have to cut people to make the 150. We are having the wedding in my home town which will be a travel for his family, so not he invites will come. The question is should we just invite everyone we know and hope that some can’t make it and we end up at 150 or should we cut and then if under 150 come then that is fine too. I want it to be around 150, but I hate to cut people. I would rather cut family then friends which is probably wrong but I am not close to all my cousins. Can you cut some cousins and not others even if they are in the same family? Thoughts?
Post # 3
If you invite 150 people, more than likely (not always), all 150 aren’t going to come. Using the 20% decline rate, you’d be okay to invite 187.5 people. I would sit down and realistically go through your lists and who you know for sure will be there and who you think may not. Almost every wedding I’ve been invited to or know the bride/groom fairly well, there are always people that they knew 100% would be there, and they didn’t come.
As far as family/cousins – that’s tough. If they’re all in the same general location, I would say you probably should invite all of them.
Post # 4
To avoid any problems I sent out my invites in batches. I sent the out of town ones first with a slightly earlier rsvp date and once those rsvps started coming and I saw how many of them were declining I invited more and more people. I ended up inviting about 32 people who declined, but replaced each of my declined guests with someone else. Basically at any one time I never had more than my max of 175 people invited. If one couple declined, I invited one more couple to fill that spot.