Post # 1
So I know this is going to sound crazy…but, my Fiance and I are doing a destination wedding in Puerto Rico. Part of the reason we wanted to do destination is to keep it small (both our families are huge; his dad wants to invite allll of his business contacts, etc). Even with destination, the guest list is still at close to 300. My Fiance cannot cut it down!! (keep in mind he has 14 groomsman to my 8 bridesmaids…). We’re planning a reception back home which will likely have 500. Is it rude to “only” invite 300 to destination as opposed to just including everyone?
Keep in mind his brother did destination wedding 5 years ago and invited 500 and 250 came to Mexico…
Post # 3
IMO I don’t think that would be rude. I have been to a couple of weddings (not destination though) where certain people were invited to the ceremony and reception and others were only invited to the reception. You can just tell people you are just keeping the ceremony to close friends and family, but with a guest list of over 300 I don’t know if that excuse will work…lol Also, many people wil decline the destination ceremony if they can’t afford it and are not close friends/family or you could send out invites first to the ppl you are hopng come and as you get declines send out second invites who you want to come but were not on the first guest list..if that makes sense
Post # 4
@Katie – WOW 300 isn’t small in my mind. We too are having a Destination Wedding but in Jamaica – but we are having a very small wedding, limited family and a few friends. I am only inviting 20 couples! The smaller the better. I dont think its rude to only invite your first 300 guests to the Destination Wedding – the other 200 dont need to know – but I guess too it would depend how many people know each other and who talks to who. I think someone that wasnt invited to the Destination Wedding and knows someone that is invited to the Destination Wedding might be offended. @Shenna is right that only people who can afford to come and that are close to you and your Fiance and family will come.
In the end its your day! You do want you want and have a great time!!
Post # 5
Depends on who is footing the bill if you and you Fiance are paying invite who you would like…if his father is paying invite whom ever but tell him that you want to keep it at a ideal number…However, if you sent save the dates to everyone (300ppl) then you should send them an invite as well…if not send the save the dates to only the people that you want to be at the ceemony in P.R
Post # 6
@kristiew417: Believe me, 300 was not my idea! I would have been really happy with 70. But, if we did it local, the invite list would be at least 500 which I just refuse to do!