- 7 years ago
Hi every one!
I wanted to get some opinions on this- so our venue only holds 80 ppl max… I love the venue and Ive always wanted a smallish type wedding, but my fiance is from a family who is used to extravagant weddings with 300+
Ive already figured out my invite list which is made up of
31 family + their spouses + 1 long term girlfriend
my bestie from when I was 4 y.o + her parents + her daughter
3 close friends from college (they are my bridesmaid)
soooo my total is 39- for me it was really easy because i just chose family and CLOSE friends
My fiance on the other hand is having a really hard time- I think in his culture you invite family + their girlfriends/boyfriend (I made it a strict rule it was only spouses and 1 long therm girlfriend because they have been together for 8 yrs and my cousin is just a commit-a-phobe)
so now he is over by 5 ppl and he has to decide
1. to cut out the girlfriends/boyfriends of his college friends (we have met half of them)
2. cut out the parents of his close childhood friends (about 6 ppl)
We have argued about it soooo much- to me my list came easily but to him he feels like it is rude to his friends to not acknowledge their boyfriend/girlfriends (when they have a wedding they have invited me in the past as his girlfriend)
but he also feels disrespectful not to invite the parents of his best friends- when his best friends sister got married he even got invited + his parents
sorry for the long rant, but any advice would be appreciated!
PS- we cant overinvite because we pretty much know that everyone will come (we all live in the same city)