Post # 1

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Blushing bee
I am starting to put together a list of who to invite to my bridal shower to send to my Maid/Matron of Honor. I will obviously be including the women in my family (my mom, stepmom, grandmother, aunts, and FMIL) but do I need to include FI’s extended family? His dad is one of 12, so there are a LOT of aunts, whom we see maybe once a year. I don’t really know these women all that well.
Post # 3

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Busy bee
@pinotgrigio: Unless your FI’s side of the family is throwing you their own shower, you should invite his family to yours as well.
I’m planning to go down our guest list for all the women for the shower. Anyone family, his side or mine since last I knew it’s 1 shower for me, plus my girlfriends. Dates of your male guests, or their girlfriends you don’t know well/at all, don’t need to be invited.
Post # 5

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Busy bee
@pinotgrigio: I would talk to your fiance or future mother in law to figure out which of his relatives should be invited. If there are too many for your Maid/Matron of Honor to handle, you could suggest having 2 showers – in fact it might be a good idea to get a number that your Maid/Matron of Honor would be comfortable with so you have something to counter with if your Future Mother-In-Law thinks she needs to invite 80 people.
Post # 6

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Busy bee
I ended up with 2 showers…one for family (H has a ton of female cousins/aunts), and a second with my close female friends. You should invite family, and if they don’t see you often, they might not come, but definitely extend an invite!