Post # 1
Hello everyone! Here goes my first post 🙂
I am Maid/Matron of Honor in my BF’s wedding and will be hosting a couples shower/jack and jill for the bride and groom.
The guests are spread all over th east coast geographically speaking, so I’m not sure if I should invite everyone or just those who are local.
I am located in Connecticut. Guests are from every from Connecticut, New York, Alabama, Illinois, Tennessee and Massachusetts.
p.s. Is there a difference between a jack & jill vs. a couples shower?
Post # 3
I would invite everyone who you want to be there, and let them decide if they want to make the trip.
Post # 4
@caitlovesmike309: Personally I feel there is a difference.
A couples shower is still like a bridal shower where the focus is gifts.
In my area a jack and jill or stag and doe is a fun party with raffles, drinking games, jello shots and door prizes. The goal of a jack and jill is to raise money and you sell tickets and get people to come regardless of their orientation to the wedding (it is perfectly okay to sell tickets to people who are friends or friends of friends etc.)
Some people find the jack and jill tacky/inapropriate as its a fundraiser, but if its acceptable in your circle go for it 🙂
Just find out exactly what they’re throwing before you invite certain people. Grandparents for example should probably NOT come to a Jack/Jill unless they’re very upbeat.
Post # 5
Ok, it’s definitely a couples shower then, we won’t be selling tickets.
Post # 6
@caitlovesmike309: Then you can invite anyone related to the wedding that you think may come.
My rule for my Bridal Shower for invitees was:
My family within same province (or your case, state)
His close family that is local
A few of my mother’s close local friends
No one out of province got an invite (other than 1 who is vietnam who we just wanted to send because she’s awesome and would love to get mail, we expect nothing from her and will probably send a note letting her know our intention so she doesn’t feel awkward)
Maybe use those same rules for your couples shower and include the men along with the women 🙂