(Closed) Who to invite to Rehearsal dinner (specific to my situation)

posted 7 years ago in Family
  • poll: Do I need to invite ALL of my out of town guests to the rehearsal dinner?
    Yes, its the right thing to do even if it will cost you a fortune : (8 votes)
    29 %
    No, your situation is different. But having everyone over for a BBQ would be a nice gesture. : (15 votes)
    54 %
    No, thats just too many people. : (5 votes)
    18 %
  • Post # 3
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    I have never heard the whole “out of town guests come to the dinner” thing, but I def think the BBQ is a good idea, but I am very thrifty, I am keeping my wedding rehersal dinner very small. Only people in the wedding and close immediate family… I like the BBQ idea!

    Post # 4
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I think it’s totally up to you.  About 70% of our guests are from out of town so we’re not inviting everyone from Out of Town.  Just close family and friends.  It would basically be the wedding if we did it that way!  So I say, go for whatever you think is best. 

    Post # 5
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    We’re in the same situation as you.  We’re inviting about 60 Out of Town guests, my dad’s side of the family still lives in Portugal, all our friends are scattered across the country, and his family is from New Mexico.   We’re inviting all of our Out of Town guests to the rehearsal dinner, and have opted for a more layed back feel than the formal wedding we’re having the next day.  

    Is it in your budget to have a bigger rehearsal dinner?  If so, I would invite the OOTs, if not, I’d do the BBQ idea at your home. 

    Post # 6
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2010

    as an aussie the rehearsal dinner concept is an american one and down here people rarely have rehearsal dinners, so i dont think you will step on too many toes if the word got out that its a bridal party and close family function only

    the bbq idea sounds great – or what if you make your rehearsal dinner the bbq and have the Out of Town guest arrive after the rehersal???

     

    Post # 8
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    the only people at your rehearsal dinner should be the people rehearsing the wedding processional. hence, rehearsal dinner. : )

     

    bijoubride

    Post # 9
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2011

    @bijoubride: Agreed! And I’m having the parents there too, of course! Other than that, i don’t feel there is any obligation to invite others.

    Post # 10
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    435 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 2010

    We had a lot of Out of Town guests so we hosted a barn party.  Bought a keg and I made chili.  It was fun.

    Post # 11
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2011

    Does the hotel where the Out of Town guests are staying have the ability to set up something? I went to a Out of Town wedding where there was a room in the hotel with some trays of italian food brought in like pasta and salad provided by the couple but it wasn’t there rehersal dinner.

    Post # 12
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    @kingytobe: If your rehearsal dinner is fancy, I would suggest having a BBQ.  I think it’s more personal anyways.

    Post # 13
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    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2011

    My Fiance comes from a huge family (all out of town) and most of my family is out of town also – we decided to keep the rehearsal small with only immediate family/Bridal Party and SO’s. just with that we have 40 people at our rehearsal eek

    Post # 15
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    the groom’s parents are traditionally responsible for planning and paying for the rehearsal dinner. (as such, they get a say in who goes, but it should be limited to the wedding party.) this one seems to go under the radar screen a lot; NOT for my wedding! his parents can foot ONE bill. : )

     

    bijoubride

    Post # 15
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    the groom’s parents are traditionally responsible for planning and paying for the rehearsal dinner. (as such, they get a say in who goes, but it should be limited to the wedding party.) this one seems to go under the radar screen a lot; NOT for my wedding! his parents can foot ONE bill. : )

     

    bijoubride

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