(Closed) Who to invite to shower? Fiance's boss?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
1466 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I don’t think I’d invite his bosses wife, and certainly not his single male friends. I’m not sure about his friends wives though. I probably wouldn’t invite them, but I’m not sure. I only invited my own female friends and family and a few of my mom’s friends to my shower.

Post # 4
9916 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

Why is his boss invited to the wedding?  Do they normally hang out after work?

Post # 5
4192 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

Per Emily Post (etiquette guru)-“A shower should be an intimate party—not a gathering that rivals the wedding—so the guest list is usually made up of the couple’s close friends, family, and attendants. The host usually consults the bride to be sure that shower guests are wedding guests.”

So, not every female invited to the wedding requires a shower invite. (Boss’s fiance is a no.) You could invite the aunts since they are family, but don’t expect out of towners to attend or send a gift- if they attend, it’s a lovely surprise.


Post # 6
4803 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@rebwana:  This. My shower was made up of my friends and family members, some local female members of DH’s family who my Mother-In-Law wanted there…and that was pretty much it. If you are having a traditional shower with prettu much just girls, I wouldn’t invite the wives of your FI’s friends, I think that would be kinda awkward if you never hang out with them one on one. And DEFINITELY don’t invite his boss’s wife, that would seem like a gift grab to me.

Post # 7
4046 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I think you should invite the Pittsburgh aunts. It’s not that far of a drive and hopefully they would like to come. If you want to, host the shower somewhere on the east side so it’s a bit closer if they want to make it.

I don’t think you need to invite every woman, just the ones that are close to you or your FH.

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