Post # 1
My sister (MOH) is willing to throw me a shower but I have to provide the invite list. Trouble is all of my friends live out of state except for one who is two hours away. Female guests who are close by include: FI’s 2 sisters & mom, and one of FI’s friends that I know slightly. And a cousin’s wife whom I’ve never met. So, who can I invite to my shower??
Also wondering how much help I can give the Maid/Matron of Honor – or should I just step back and let her do it? I’ve already suggested I would like a lingerie theme…
Post # 3
You can invite any female guests invited to the wedding. I’d definitely open the guest list up to your FI’s family and friends.
As for the help, you can ask if there’s anything they’d like you to do to help, but try to avoid meddling too much. Maybe something like “I’m happy to help with anyone you need, so just let me know!” and leave it at that.
Post # 4
Do you have any family friends nearby? We had several friends of the family (my parents’ friends, childhood neighbors, my parents’ current neighbors, etc) at one of my showers. Are you friends with any co-workers or anything?
There’s nothing wrong with an smaller guest list — it helps you get to spend more time with your guests. Huge showers can be overwhelming!
You can help your Maid/Matron of Honor out a little. Let her do the planning, but feel free to offer up a few ideas of what you like/don’t like. She’ll let you know how much input she needs to make it happen. 🙂
Post # 5
Thanks for the response. I wasn’t sure if FI’s friend would think it was wierd to get an invite seeing as how I don’t know her that well. The wedding and location of the shower are in the town where my family lives but I live about six hours away. So I don’t actually know anyone in the area other than my family (who moved there relatively recently). I guess it will be a small shower with mostly FI’s family…
Post # 6
I’m having a small shower too, since most of my family and FI’s family are out of town. I didn’t want to invite any women who I don’t feel close with or talk to regularly, like FI’s female co-workers. I feel like having a close group of people is best.
Post # 7
@Bichon Frise: Same here. I am not close with my FI’s family or my step dad’s family. I don’t know whether or not I need to invite them all or what? I would feel awkward for sure.
Post # 8
I have to have two showers because I can’t put the burden of my family AND friends on both. It’s really up to you but on the family side I am inviting the aunts and cousins that live in the area as well as some women that I grew up around that are my moms close friends and the neighbors I spent a lot of time with.