(Closed) who to invite to shower?

posted 7 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
13290 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

You can invite any female guests invited to the wedding.  I’d definitely open the guest list up to your FI’s family and friends. 

As for the help, you can ask if there’s anything they’d like you to do to help, but try to avoid meddling too much.  Maybe something like “I’m happy to help with anyone you need, so just let me know!” and leave it at that.

Post # 4
16191 posts
Honey Beekeeper

Do you have any family friends nearby? We had several friends of the family (my parents’ friends, childhood neighbors, my parents’ current neighbors, etc) at one of my showers. Are you friends with any co-workers or anything?

There’s nothing wrong with an smaller guest list — it helps you get to spend more time with your guests. Huge showers can be overwhelming!

You can help your Maid/Matron of Honor out a little. Let her do the planning, but feel free to offer up a few ideas of what you like/don’t like. She’ll let you know how much input she needs to make it happen. 🙂

Post # 6
2849 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I’m having a small shower too, since most of my family and FI’s family are out of town. I didn’t want to invite any women who I don’t feel close with or talk to regularly, like FI’s female co-workers. I feel like having a close group of people is best.

Post # 7
2362 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

@Bichon Frise:  Same here. I am not close with my FI’s family or my step dad’s family. I don’t know whether or not I need to invite them all or what? I would feel awkward for sure.

Post # 8
5660 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

I have to have two showers because I can’t put the burden of my family AND friends on both. It’s really up to you but on the family side I am inviting the aunts and cousins that live in the area as well as some women that I grew up around that are my moms close friends and the neighbors I spent a lot of time with. 

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