(Closed) Who to invite to the bridal shower?

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Busy Beekeeper

For my showers I just invited people I was close too and wanted there.  Since it’s your mom and FI’s Maid/Matron of Honor throwing it, that would include family friends of yours and FI’s and any close friends.

I don’t like being invited to showers for people I’m not particularly close to but would still attend the wedding – which is why I’m anti “invite every female”.

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

For mine, women in the family and close female freinds are going to be invited… not everyone invited to the wedding- but I guess a large portion (since our guest list is almost exclusively family). 

Post # 5
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

We’re having a small wedding (85 guests) so for the most part, we’re close with everyone. Pretty much every woman who is invited to our wedding, with the exception of FI’s co-workers wives, will be invited to my shower, but we’re also talking close family and friends.

I normally stick to the “only those who I’m close to” rule for pre wedding festivities. I don’t know how big your wedding is but if it’s on the larger side, following the “all women invited” rule could be madness!

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I just talked to one of my BM’s about a shower (I fianlly agreed to having one, I’m so ashamed, lol).  

My FI’s and my only, request is “neither set of parents”.  Not my mom, not his mom.  (We currently try to keep the parents seperated due to many issues, the main one being my mother doesn’t mesh well with others…)  

It’ll probably be both my Fiance and me at the shower due to the fact the Bridesmaid or Best Man will probably want to have her Boyfriend or Best Friend, who’s also a great friend of ours, at the shower.  It’ll also be fun to have the guys there, too, since they’re just as dear to me as the ladies.  That’s the IDEA right now.  Whether or not it’ll happen, who knows.

In your position, I’d invite only those nearest and dearest to you.  Family and friends.  Since they’re gonna be at the wedding, anyway, it’ll be a good time for them to do a mini meet & greet.  🙂

Post # 7
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

I invited every female on our guest list, except for one’s I didn’t really know. For instance, I sent some of my male cousins invites with plus one’s who have gf’s but that I don’t really know. However, other male cousins have wives and fiances that I do know well and so they were invited.

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