(Closed) Who to invite to the shower

posted 7 years ago in Parties
Post # 4
519 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I would invite all the ladies on his side. They live close enough to attend, and it’s a nice gesture even if they don’t want to come. If one of my male cousins was getting married, I would want to be invited to the shower even if I didn’t know his Fiance. You are becoming a part of the family, and it’s a fun event for them to get to know you. 

Post # 5
546 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

Can you talk to FMIL? She would know the family better and have a better feel for the situation.  She would also know how this type of thing has been handled before.  That is what I am planning on doing.

Post # 6
4192 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

Emily Post says- “Showers are intimate gatherings for people you know very well.”  I only invited members of FI’s family who I knew, and had 16 women at my shower- a perfect number. Personally, getting invited to a shower when I don’t know the bride would feel like a gift grab.

Post # 7
2239 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I had planned to invite all females invited from his side but then we decided it would be better to just have my shower be my side due to a recent death in the family on his side.  FMIL thought it’d be too soon for a gathering so now the list includes all female family members/friends from my side, Future Mother-In-Law, 2 FSILs, and FMIL’s mom.  

Post # 8
813 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

Is his family going to behaving their own shower for you?


My aunt hosted one for my family, and my FI’s aunt is hosting one for his side of the family next weekend. Noth of our moms and sisters will attend both though.

Post # 10
2965 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

If it’s his family, I would invite them. Friends of his you don’t know, I would say no. You are about to marry him and his family will become your family as well so there’s no better time to get to know them. Fiance has some family 4 hrs away and I’m inviting them to the shower and I hardly know them. If they cannot make it, that’s understandable but at least send out the invite.

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