Post # 1
So, my bestest friend in the whole wide world (also my MOH) is putting together my bridal shower…I’m stumped with it though!
Fiance’s family lives about 2hrs away from us…I know all of his immediate family but not all his cousins, aunts and so on. Do we send invites to everyone on his side? He says it would be weird, but I feel bad not inviting them! At the same time I’d feel awkward inviting them, because I don’t know them!
What do we do?
Thanks for all of your help ladies!
Post # 4
I would invite all the ladies on his side. They live close enough to attend, and it’s a nice gesture even if they don’t want to come. If one of my male cousins was getting married, I would want to be invited to the shower even if I didn’t know his Fiance. You are becoming a part of the family, and it’s a fun event for them to get to know you.
Post # 5
Can you talk to FMIL? She would know the family better and have a better feel for the situation. She would also know how this type of thing has been handled before. That is what I am planning on doing.
Post # 6
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
Emily Post says- “Showers are intimate gatherings for people you know very well.” I only invited members of FI’s family who I knew, and had 16 women at my shower- a perfect number. Personally, getting invited to a shower when I don’t know the bride would feel like a gift grab.
Post # 7
I had planned to invite all females invited from his side but then we decided it would be better to just have my shower be my side due to a recent death in the family on his side. FMIL thought it’d be too soon for a gathering so now the list includes all female family members/friends from my side, Future Mother-In-Law, 2 FSILs, and FMIL’s mom.
Post # 8
Is his family going to behaving their own shower for you?
My aunt hosted one for my family, and my FI’s aunt is hosting one for his side of the family next weekend. Noth of our moms and sisters will attend both though.
Post # 9
I don’t think his family is doing a seperate shower for me (at least not that I’ve heard of)…I don’t want to seem gift grabby, but I don’t want anyone to feel slighted that they were left out…Maybe I’ll phone my Future Mother-In-Law and ask her opinion. Who knew these things would be so tricky?
Post # 10
If it’s his family, I would invite them. Friends of his you don’t know, I would say no. You are about to marry him and his family will become your family as well so there’s no better time to get to know them. Fiance has some family 4 hrs away and I’m inviting them to the shower and I hardly know them. If they cannot make it, that’s understandable but at least send out the invite.