Post # 1
I need help hive!
Has anyone else had a really hard time deciding who to invite from your wedding guest list to your bridal shower?
My mom and Maid/Matron of Honor have graciously set up a time and place and now it is my job to let them know who to invite. Suddenly I feel pretty awkward.
Inviting ppl to the wedding seemed like, ‘Come, witness us get married!!’ where this is like, ‘Come and bring me a present!’ I’m a person who generally doesnt like to be the center of attention.
I don’t ‘not’ want any females from the guest list there but i feel awkward inviting some who i barely know (on my FI’s side) or friends I havent seen in ages who i still invited, to come to an event based 100% around giving me a gift. On the other hand, I dont not want to insult anyone.
Post # 3
I understand how you are feeling totally. I ended up inviting a couple of girls that are more FI’s friends. I figure they can always decline and I have no expectations about gifts. I just want to have a girly party 🙂 I”m not planning on inviting anyone who has to travel more than a couple of hours.
Post # 4
I limited my guest list for the shower to family and close friends. I didn’t invite anyone who I don’t know well or talk to on a regular basis. I figured it’s better to have a small group of women I’m close with than a large group of women who are more of acquaintances.
Post # 5
I just ended up saying all women on the guest list, minus those not in driving distance.
Post # 6
I invited 30 women: my bridal party, my 4 coworkers, my girl friends, my mom’s card club, FI’s mom and step mom. I really didn’t invite too many people from his side and just stuck with my own friends and family. If his side wanted to throw me a shower (which they don’t and that’s fine), then I’d except it to be 90% his side and just a little from mine. 🙂
Post # 7
It is difficult to draw the line. Mine is mostly family (they make up at least 2/3 of the guest list), the wedding party, a few close friends, and a few of my mother’s friends who I know will appreciate being included.
Post # 8
I have more than half family, and then some of my friends. I think I only have two of his friends – they’re also my friends. I also figured that if his side wanted to throw a shower, they would.
Post # 9
Since there’s already a place picked out then that means there’s a guest count limitation, yes?
I would start there.
Post # 10
Yeah, in the end i ended up inviting almost all the women from the guest list. Like ya’ll said, people can rsvp ‘no’ and I don’t have any expectations. We’ll just see. The only ppl i really don’t know too well still should be included since they’re FI’s close family who i just haven’t have occasion to meet that often. We’ll see!