(Closed) Who to list first Bride or Groom? (HELP PLEASE)

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 17
1184 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I listed myself first on the invite and my mom was all put off by it. I’m glad to know this is actually not a problem. ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 19
1849 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

if you’re paying, it’s usually

together with their parents, 

bride and groom

invite you… 

blah blah blah

Post # 20
1172 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@nattiejeanne:  on all of our wedding website things, we listed him first. However we also have both of our first and last names so that people know who we each are.

On the invitation, if you want to put him first, put him first. Traditionally it is the woman first because traditionally it is her family hosting the wedding.

Post # 21
224 posts
Helper bee

My Fiance and I have jokingly mashed our names together and call our wedding ‘Operation: C

‘ in conversation, but I’m thinking I’ll probably make our wedding website something like ‘www.weddingwebsitegenericthinghere.com/s-and-i-tietheknot

But that has my name first, sooo…yeah I guess I’d put the bride first. I mean, they do say ladies first, after all ๐Ÿ˜›

Post # 23
4996 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

Bride goest first pre-wedding and at the wedding, groom goes first for the rest of your marriage

Post # 24
138 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

We listed the groom first on everything wedding related. It just felt more natural to us. My name then his name just sounds weird. But then again we aren’t sticking with traditon with a lot of things.


Do whatever feels right to the two of you! It’s your wedding!.








Post # 25
970 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

@nattiejeanne:  It’s really just a case of whether you want to go with tradition or not! As PP’s have said, tradition states the bride goes first but if you’re not fussed with the ‘rules’ (which you certainly don’t need to be!) then do it however you want! We’re paying for around 80% of our wedding and have worded our invitations as ‘Along with their parents (me) and (FI) invite you…’ etc etc. We went with tradition just for the hell of it but it really doesn’t matter! ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 27
242 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

We are hosting our own wedding so our invitations will read, “Together with their families, BRIDE FULL NAME and GROOM FULL NAME, request blah blah blah…” Traditionally, ladies first but really, do what you want.  If you want it to be “correct”, then put your name first.  If you want it to be the way you want it, put his. ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 28
815 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@nattiejeanne:  Me personally…? I would refer to our wedding as the “Hislastname Wedding” (as I’m taking his last name) and so far, I’ve been using his name first. I kind of don’t care about the etiquette around it – it’s more about me DIY-ing all our invitations, and that putting his name before mine just feels right. Probably similar to how he would put my name first if he was doing them. Eh. I say either way!

Post # 29
5622 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2014


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