(Closed) Who to mail the RSVP to?

posted 8 years ago in Paper
Post # 3
391 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

I think having both of your names would be fine.

Post # 4
484 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@justinandstephanie: Put both of your names.. its completely acceptable… use an invitation site like einvite.com that will let you personalize your stationary and you can play with all the combinations and see which you like best before choosing!

Post # 5
4485 posts
Honey bee

Every wedding invite I have received had the bride and groom’s first names (no last name) listed on the rsvp envelope. However, it should go to whomever will be tallying the results for the caterer/baker/venue and whomever needs to get in touch with any stragglers who haven’t replied by the due date.

Post # 6
3344 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

We used just our first names.

Post # 7
1676 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I feel like the awful non inclusive bride now, but the return addresses and the RSVPs are both in my name, not FH at all. Of course he’s on the invite, but we don’t live together, and I’m the one dealing with that end of things so it did not make sense to use his address – and why would we use his name at my address?

Maybe I’m just mean. 

Post # 8
1569 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 1996

@red_pepper_gal: Don’t worry, if you and your FH don’t live together, then it is completely appropriate for your name to be the only one that appears on the RSVP envelope. It technically wouldn’t make any sense for his name to be on there if he doesn’t live with you. You’re fine!

We used both our names on ours: “Jane Miller and John Smith,” with no honorific. But, we lived together before the wedding. 🙂

Post # 9
94 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Me and my FH live together, but I only added my name for the RSVP. I don’t feel bad about that at all, considering it is WIDELY frowned upon that we live together before marriage.

Post # 10
14494 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Traditionally RSVP’s go to the bride name and address.

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