- 8 years ago
- Wedding: May 2011
Having an internal debate and it’s driving me batty and I need to vent before I drive my fiance nuts with wedding party stuff.
We had a change of plans once my fiance started seriously thinking about who he wanted in our wedding party. Initially, he wanted all four of his siblings and my brother in the wedding party. Now he just wants one of his brothers and my brother, which, along with his best man, gives him three attendants. I have my Maid/Matron of Honor picked, and I already asked my sister-in-law to be a bridesmaid. But I have no clear option for my third attendant (and I’m a little OCD, so I can’t NOT have an equal proportion.)
There’s choosing between his sisters (how can you choose between your sisters-in-law without causing long-term rifts?) There’s a local friend of mine who I only met last year, just went through a divorce, and I don’t think can afford to fly out plus buy the dress. There’s my best female friend’s mother (my best friend is in England and will have her third child two months before the wedding – she can’t make it.) There is an old friend I’m not in communication with much, but she’s the one friend from home who came to visit my fiance and I in our current location. And there’s another out-of-state friend who is expecting her second baby two months before the wedding (her first is 16 months at the moment – I was in the delivery room with them, since the dad was deployed), and she’s trying to get out of the military and has only sent me texts since February.
It’s driving me nuts that I have six possible candidates, and none of them really fit the bill…