(Closed) who to talk too…..

posted 4 years ago in TTC
Post # 2
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

The bee is great for this. Welcome 🙂

Post # 3
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Busy bee

Thats why youre on the bee! It is my first month off of bcp as well so i can relate! I have 1 friend i opened up to about it because she is the best secret keeper in the world.lol. but it is hard to keep it from everyone and we dont talk about it that much. 

I will tell you I have been on a hormonal roller coaster! I feel like im pregant because all the changes my body is going through(huge boobs, constant cramping, sensitive to smells, nauseous, etc.) lol. But I know its just my body getting used to its own hormones. I was on bcp for 10years.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

From someone struggling with infertility and headed towards IVF in the next few months, I don’t think it would be wrong to discuss it with your IVF friends.

a) I would rather hear that a friend is trying, than have no idea and they suddenly announce they’re pregnant. It would feel like they were hiding things from me, or didn’t want to discuss it with me.

b) It would feel nice to give someone some TTC advice. After all, we are true TTC warriors, and know all the ups and downs and ridiculous moments and have tried literally all the tricks in the books.

c) If it takes you longer than expected, they’d be nice to discuss it with, since they’ve been in those shoes for a while too.

 

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

That’s why I’m on the Bee!  We aren’t really telling anyone about our TTC journey, as we’re just starting IVF with a surrogate, and it’s already stressful enough…we don’t want family and friends to know/ask questions/etc right now.  So any time I want to share something, I come here!  It’s a really wonderful, supportive community!  You can share with us! 🙂

Post # 6
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Newbee

I *totally* understand! We just started TTC, too, and it is basically all I can think about it. I’m sure I’m terrible conversation these days 🙂 It is such a surreal feeling: thinking about adding a kiddo into the mix. I’m by no means too young (we are 29+30), but nothing has made me feel more adult than talking about having a BABY. WOW!

Anyway right there with you on needing to stay grounded…thankful for the bee 🙂

 

Post # 7
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

Ugh I am with you, we started this month too.  I told my mom but every time I bring it up she just says to stop stressing and that stress won’t help. But not talking about it stresses me out. I’m actually really excited and am under no false hopes that this will be quick and easy. But why is saying that I want positive this month bad?  I mean we started trying because we want a baby, I understand there is a very good chance that it will take a while but I don’t understand why it’s so wrong of me to say I will be sad if it doesn’t work this month. She says I want it to much but I feel like if I didn’t want this much I shouldn’t even be trying to bring a kid into this world.

Sorry I had to let all that.  I’m excited but sometimes I feel wrong to be this excited because of what people say.

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2016

We are newly TTC, too! It’s all I can think about – I started out like hmm I’m not going to temp & chart, I’ll just ride it out. Now I’m like I need to do EVERYTHING lol.

Post # 12
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

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waterlilly15:  it needs to stay high for 3 days in a row:) more like around 97.8. You probably havent ovulated yet. I do around day 17 or 18. Hang in there!

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

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waterlilly15:  I spent the first 2 months of TTC completely convinced that I wasn’t ovulating because I wasn’t getting positve OPKs. Someone here suggested that I start temping and by doing that, I realized that I don’t ovulate until CD16 or 17 so I was just stopping with the OPKs too early. So just keep testing and temping. I use Fertility Friend and Kindara (still trying to figure out which I prefer) and that really helps make some sense of your temps. I would tell you to try not to stress, but I know that is a silly suggestion as I’m sitting here 9DPO and am symptom spotting like crazy. Have fun and feel free to chat with us when you need! There are a lot of us who totally get you.

Post # 15
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

Not sure if you have confirmed ovulation yet or not, but I thought I’d chime in with my 2 cents because your scenario sounds a little bit like mine when I started temping! I found out after a couple of cycles when the Ovia app was telling me I was in my fertile window day 14-18, that I didn’t actually ovulate will days 17 or 18! I’ve never ovulated as early as day 14. Fertility friend is definitely the app I’d recommend 🙂 

Also, are you temping vaginally? ( i know, it sounds so unappealing, lol). I find that my temps are way more accurate when I temp vaginally instead of orally. If you breathe through your mouth at night, your temperatures can be significantly affected by that. 

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