(Closed) Who To Walk With – Advice

posted 8 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
662 posts
Busy bee

I think that you should stand up for yourself and tell him no flat out.  There is no reason for you to be bullied into being walked by him or not being walked by grandpa on your wedding day.  If he begins to be really mean to you or your fiance or if he starts to create drama, just don’t invite him.



Post # 4
513 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I love the idea of you asking your grandpa to do this.. I would tell your stepfather that you are asking him to do this as a way of involving your parents, but that you have reserved the first dance for him to honor him too.

Don’t let him ‘bully’ you into doing something that you don’t really want to…

Good Luck.

Post # 5
5072 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

“no thank you.”

DO NOT let him guilt you into this.  It’s your day and this is a very important part of it.

Post # 6
9950 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Was a time, when the 2 BIGGIES reserved for the FOB were walking her down the aisle (giving her away) and the Father-Daughter Dance.

Although some Brides still honour their “Dads” with both, times have also changed.

Many Brides don’t partake in the whole “Giving the Bride Away” idea anymore, so they walk themselves down the aisle, while others have used the occasion to incorporate others dear to them (Both Parents, GrandParents, God-Parents, or if there has been a Divorce or Death then someone else who has been special to them in their life)

It is however the FIRST occasion on the big day, when the Guests do get to see the Bride, so can be fairly significant in regards to who you bestow that honour onto.

The Father-Daughter Dance, is even less of a tradition.  There are certainly Brides who skip that totally…

But again like the Walk Down the Aisle, it is something that can be done in countless permatations.

If you are comfortable with giving THAT honour to your StepDad, and really want your Grampa to walk you down the aisle, then I say go with it.

YES you will need to tell your Step Father your plans… and I would make it very clear to him WHY you’ve chosen your Grampa (I personally LOVED your reasoning).  That it is a way of connecting the generations of your family together… old with new, past to present, and a way of representing those who are no longer here to share with you.

I would think that most reasonable people would be able to understand this.  If your Step-Dad is sooo upset that he says “forget the first dance then”… so be it.  It really isn’t that huge a loss.

Hope this helps,


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