(Closed) Who "waited" to have a baby?

posted 5 years ago in Family
Post # 3
12247 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

I “waited” for 6 months, between when we moved up the wedding date and the date of our wedding!

It was hard (I worked with infants–It was like working in a bakery but never getting to have any cake!), but I’m glad we waited for the rings. I’m the ONLY female in my family to get pregnant AFTER the wedding!

Post # 4
265 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2015 - Powel Crosley Estate, Sarasota, FL

@ShabbyChicBee:  I’m in the process of waiting! Just turned 30 in December, and I will have just turned 31 by the time we’re married. I think we will start trying soon after we wed.

I used to have a big problem with it – and thought turning 30 would make it worse – but I actually felt at peace instead.

I think it’s awesome when couples have kids young – but it just wasn’t in the cards for us. As a result of waiting I think we’ll be more prepared to take on parental roles. Also, I’m planning on getting in the best shape of my life before I get prego (to make pregnancy and birth ‘easier’) – so I need the extra time! haha

Every couple and every couples “readiness” is different. There’s no “right” time to have a baby!

Post # 5
5475 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

We waited til I was 31 to TTC for DD#1, and I’m currently 32 & pregnant with baby #2!  I should be 33 when I deliver this time.

I’m definitely glad I very thoroughly enjoyed my 20s!  

Post # 6
275 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I’m 27 now and Darling Husband is 29. We’re waiting to TTC until I’m 30. We just aren’t ready yet, and we’re ok with that.

Post # 7
9181 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

I’m waiting too.  I’m 31 (and a half! these things start to matter) and my husband is almost 34.  We both have multiple degrees and have just gotten started in our careers in the past couple years.  And I’ll have to quit my current job when we do have a kid (lots of travel, riding an atv all day, etc etc) and my field is really competitive.

SO, we are waiting another ~1.5 years to TTC, to save up money and get more established in our careers for now…

I always wanted to wait to have kids until I was in my 30s.  I’ve had a LOT of great adventures and fun in the meantime.  So I’m just crossing my fingers that everything will work out and I can pop out two by the time I’m ~35-36 or so.

Post # 8
1423 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

I’m 32.  We’ll probably have our first when I’m 33 or 34.  My husband and I have been together since we were both 19.  I have no regrets waiting!  There are way too many great things to do in life that are really hard to do once you have kids, and I want to do those things while I’m still young.  I’m also in way better shape physically than I was in my 20s, and we were able to save a bundle for retirement in our 20s, which we wouldn’t have been able to do if we’d had kiddos.   We also have way more money now, which will make having kids so much less stressful.  We can afford a great daycare, if we go that route.  We can afford for one of us to stay home, if we go that route.  All of this would have been impossible if we’d had kids earlier.   

Post # 9
1649 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

We are getting married in October, we’ll both be 28. We decided to wait until we are 31 so it’ll be a couple years of marriage before we might have a baby.

Post # 10
667 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

We waited until we had been married for three years, and both graduates school. Still trying to conceive.

Post # 11
11747 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@ShabbyChicBee:  I’m 27 and Darling Husband is 34. We got pregnant 3 months after the wedding on the first “try” and it wasn’t completely planned. We were planning to wait until the fall to start, but it happened a little sooner. I would have been fine waiting up to another year or so, but I also don’t regret it at all. I can’t imagine not being pregnant and expecting our first baby now!


Post # 12
4062 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I’m 39 and pregnant with my first. 

I only waited because I didn’t meet Darling Husband until a month before I turned 36. 

Post # 13
11166 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

@ShabbyChicBee:  Well we waited 18 months after we got married and I am 30 (DH 31). I was planning to wait a year or two longer but really I couldn’t figure out why. I am glad we went ahead with it and are expecting our first child in August.

Post # 14
794 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2015 - Backyard Forest

We both want a baby. My SO has baby fever like woah. 

For example, he has a beard and today he said he can’t wait until he can submit his photo into beardyland, and I said, then do it? And he hands me a phone and it was their weekly dads and beards feature. 

Quite frankly, it’s *REALLY* hard not to give in and try now. 

But for me, I really want to be married first. He knows this rule and somewhat agrees. 

It’s been hard not to throw in the towel and do things the other way around. 


Post # 15
5242 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

I’m 31 Darling Husband is 30 and we have been married for almost a year. I plan on waiting at least a few more years. We just aren’t ready yet and we just got a new house and my Darling Husband his own business so we are focusing on those things first before a baby comes along!

Post # 16
9689 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

Well I didn’t want kids before 30.  I’m turning 30 in June.  I could have waited another 2 years and been okay with it (no baby fever here) but didn’t see any reason to.

I wanted to thoroughly ENJOY my 20s being selfish and more carefree (which I did)…so definitely no regrets here!  You don’t get that time back.

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