(Closed) who walked you down the aisle? (non-traditional)

posted 7 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I’ll be walking alone. My parents walked down the aisle together at their wedding.

Post # 17
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

My mother did, my father died several years ago.

Post # 18
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

Aww, sorry! My Dad walked me down the isle, but I have friends who walked down the isle:

+ With their husband, hand in hand (so cuuuuute)

+ With a brother (you have one so it could work for you)

+ By their son (really sweet, but you didn’t mention being a parent)

+ And even alone! (perfect for a strong and independent woman!)

I hope you find what’s right for you… my family is also dysfunctional, but mostly due to my mom being crazy. I had to adjust things to account for her not being part of the wedding.

 

Post # 19
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I had my brother walk me. It felt the most right and I was so pleased to have him there in the moments before I got married. 

Post # 20
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2016 - Beaches Negril

It’s a tie between my nephew and my middle son. My nephew is my heart and he thinks of me more than he does of his Mom. My middle son is a twin who gets looked over as the middle child. Lately, I’ve been toying with the idea of them both doing it. My son is 12 and my nephew is 8 and they were both honored to be doing it! It made me happy sharing with them what their job was and how happy they are with the responsibility.

Post # 21
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

My future father in law is walking me down the aisle. 

Post # 22
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Helper bee

In my denomination, it’s traditional for the bride and groom to meet in the back and then walk down the aisle together. Is that something you might consider? 

 

ETA: I think if I wanted someone to walk me down the aisle, though, and my father wasn’t available, I’d have one of my cousins (male) walk me. We are very close, just two months apart in age, and have always gotten along really well. Are you particularly close to any of your cousins, uncles, or aunts?

Post # 23
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

I’m estranged from my dad.  I am very fond of my Father-In-Law and I have a younger brother.  I just didn’t feel like I wanted them to walk me down the aisle, neither of them really played a “father” role in my life.  My hubbie and I decided to walk down the aisle together.  It’s also very common now for brides to walk down the aisle alone.  With so many divorces, blended families, step parents, family disfunction/estrangements etc…it can be easier that way.  This having someone walk the bride down the aisle is a very old tradition.  IMO in many cases today it doesn’t apply.  You don’t belong to anyone and you know exactly were you’re going.  If you want to have someone walk you down the aisle that’s fine.  But don’t feel you have to be walked down the aisle.  I think this type of situation is more common for many of us than you might think.  Do what feels right. http://offbeatbride.com/2011/05/who-should-walk-me-down-the-aisle

 

Post # 24
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

My grandfather will be walking me down the isle.

Post # 25
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

My wife walked on her own.  The Church, in fact, discourages the custom of giving away the bride, as she is no one’s property, but rather gives herself.  Apparently, the Catholic tradition is actually that the bride and groom walk together down the aisle, but they allow changes according to “local custom.”  So, they don’t stop anyone from being given away by her father, if she wants to be.  I went first, she went last.

Post # 26
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

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Post # 27
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2015 - Poulsbo, WA

My fiance and I are walking together! I love both of my parents, but I want to literally walk into our marriage with my fiance by my side. My parents actually did the same thing, so my dad wasn’t offended at all. It feels very right for us.

Post # 28
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

my mom and dad will be walking me down the aisle. they separated when i was born so they both like single parents and my last name is hyphenated with both names so I figure it makes sense for them to both give me away. 

Post # 29
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2016 - Boettcher Mansion

My Dad also passed away about 4 years ago, now, so I asked my uncle (his closest older brother) to walk me down the aisle. We actually all ate dinner together (my mom, my FH, my aunt and uncle) when I told them I was engaged and I asked him to walk me down the aisle for my dad, and we all cried together, it was a very special moment. 🙂 

It really depends on what feels right for you! Once I realized that FH and I would be getting married, the person that immediately popped into my head was my uncle, and it fits just right! I have a younger brother, too, but he is going to dance with me for the father/daughter dance instead. 

I think it also depends on how you have envisioned your day. I always envisioned being walked down the aisle by my dad and being “given” away, it seemed like such a special moment and we used to talk about it when I was little all the time, so when he passed, I knew that I wanted to somehow honor him with that act even though he wouldn’t physically be present to follow through on his end. I know he’d be very happy to see me walk with my uncle, so it just felt right. You will know when you think of someone to walk you if you want to be escorted, it’ll just seem to fit. 🙂

Post # 30
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

My dad if he’s able to make the trip otherwise it’ll be my best guy friend. 

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