Post # 16
My now-hub wanted a traditional wedding, with all our friends and family invited. I wanted something very small (like immediate family and best friends only), and had a long list of things I didn’t want to do: register for gifts, spend thousands of dollars on a dress, flowers, and photography, be escorted down the aisle, etc. I had to defend every decision/preference to my husband, as he started out of the opinion that “if we don’t have XYZ, people won’t think it’s a real wedding”. My feeling was more “we throw the party we want, and people will know it’s a wedding because we get married at the start of it”.
In the end, we compromised by having a small/medium-sized wedding (60 guests) in a nice but affordable venue, and he didn’t insist we follow any wedding traditions: no bridal party, we walked together down the aisle, no first dance, no bouquet to throw, no garter to (wrangle…?), and we had a cake because it came with out wedding package, but we just had the servers slice it in the kitchen to be served. And everyone had a good time, and no one questioned if it was a “real” wedding, and we have so far lived happily ever after!
Post # 17
- Wedding: Disneyland - January 2016
We both definitely want something bigger (well, big for us…I’ve since learned that a 50 person wedding is small to other people). In the beginning we toyed with the idea of a smaller wedding (around 20 people), and even eloping with just us and our parents, mostly from the financial aspects of it all, but it really didn’t make either of us very happy at all. He told me straight from the bat that he had always dreamed of a traditional wedding, all our friends and family, lots of decorations and music to celebrate, the cake, the bride in a big poofy gown, etc. and so had I. I think it would have been difficult planning something with someone who wanted a drastically different wedding than I did. It’s a pretty big event and I’m so glad we’re pretty much on the same page about what we want.
Post # 18
We both wanted a large, traditional wedding – his family lives in another country and we knew that this would be the one time all of our friends and family would be together in one place.
We had 160, I suppose that isn’t “enormous” but it was as big as we wanted it. Fairly traditional as weddings go. I have absolutely zero regrets, it was the best day!
Post # 19
I wanted a 50 person wedding, my husband wanted a ‘we’ll invite whomever we need to invite’ wedding. We invited 62 people and had 50 people in attendance, 52 inlcuding ourselves.
Neither of us wanted an actual BIG wedding nor a traditional one.. So ours was perfect! We definitely had traditional elements but, overall it wasn’t a traditional wedding.