(Closed) Who wants to ditch the wedding and elope?

posted 6 years ago in Elopement
Post # 3
1583 posts
Bumble bee

@ralessio:  is a smaller Destination Wedding possible?


i really commented to say you should have had your cat on a plastic harness in the airport. mine moved overseas with me and was fine flying. Also your cat will be fine with you gone. just have someone come over every few days to tend to it and hang out for a bit. it isnt like itll poop everywhere or eat all of its food the first day like dogs.

Post # 4
8576 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

Ive felt this way, mainly over finding a venue. It’s made me want to scream!

Post # 5
1161 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@ralessio:  I think eloping with parents seems like a good middle ground for you. We started planning a big wedding but cancelled it. Most likely we will end up eloping with our immediate families, grandparents, and possibly a few really close aunts and uncles. The stress of the bigger wedding was not proving to be worth it.

Post # 6
2553 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

WE DID!!!! We are doing kind of a planned elopement. We picked a restaurant that had a private room and we let that dictate our guest numbers. Only 25 people including us and the photographer. OH man, it has been wonderful!! Our stress has almost completely went away. We had so much drama before and now its very relaxed and actually feels like the wedding will be about us instead of some big party where everybody gets to complain and b*tch about what they want or what they think. We actually uninvited 100 people (yeah etiquette whatever, I’m not going to go insane and not have the wedding I want because of etiquette. We had only sent out Save-The-Date Cards no invites yet so its not too bad.)

Post # 8
1583 posts
Bumble bee

@ralessio:  well i used a harness with a leash. we clipped off the leash and i held kitty by the harness. They wouldn’t let me trank her til i was past security (but for a 9 hour flight you pretty much have to sedate them!)

next time use a normal leash and a detachable harness. you can keep that on the whole time.


oh! Destination Wedding is indeed destination and that with your families sounds lovely! I’d do that too if I could

Post # 9
180 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

We are! After all of the drama crap and financial stress, we decided to elope… We are doing a “planned” elopement, with only his mom, my dad, and my grandma as witnesses. He is an only child so it was important to him that his mom be there and my dad has helped by paying for photography. My grandma has a huge crush on my Fiance and told me that she has to be able to come so she can kiss him goodbye! LOL

Seriously, if it’s all that stress, just elope with your closest family members. I say it all the time, but it’s true: Dr. Seuss had it right – “Those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind.”

Post # 10
1735 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I think an elopement with your parents sounds like a great idea 🙂

I have wanted to ditch the wedding and elope from day one, ha. It was Fiance who wanted an actual wedding, so here we are. And I hate it as much as I thought I would. It’s a bummer :/ I’m sick of worrying about what people will think or say or if they’ll be offended by this or that. I just want to marry my man. Why is it so flippin’ difficult?

Post # 11
8041 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

@ralessio:  I’d say screw it, and elope. That’s what we plan on doing.

Why would we want to spend thousands on an event that we a) don’t really want b) won’t please everyone? Sooo many better things to do with thousands of dollars.

Post # 12
847 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2015

@ralessio:  Urgh, yes. I’m starting to want an elopement with Fiance. I think I’m just gonna go for it! 

Post # 13
129 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I started planning a wedding and the cost of everything was ridiculous, it felt like we were putting on a party for friends we barely even see anymore and who could likely care less.

Plus I’m older and really want to travel and have a kick ass honeymoon.

So we are “eloping” to Hawaii this summer. I can’t wait! I do not miss the stress of planning everything and hearing everyone’s opinions. A wedding package on the beach with photos in Hawaii averages $1k, add more for video. Pretty dress, my man, a flower in my hair, barefoot, a few nice photos and a romantic dinner afterwards. I’ll take it, thank you very much!


Post # 14
283 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

We were originally going to rent an awesome beach house and have our wedding with 75-100 people there. After going thru the logistics of everything, we decided it just wasnt us. All i really cared about was marrying my man on the ocean. So we just decided to have a small ceremony on the beach with just our parents. I have been to many beautiful weddings this year that were so awesome and fun, but i dint regret what we did for a second, neither does my hubby

Post # 15
164 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

We are mostly having a wedding because my Fiance and his family wanted it…guess who is doing most of the work (that’s right, me)!  I honestly don’t really care either way, as long as I’m getting married to him.  Smile But yes, we did consider eloping for a little while, and only went through with the bigger wedding after FI’s parents offered a significant chunk of cash to help out, which I am extremely grateful for!  I hate to be blunt, but if they’re the ones who want the big party so much, then they can foot the bill! 

We love California wine country and were thinking very seriously of going with one of these packages, inviting immediate family only:


The officiant called me and spoke to me about each of the packages they offer.  He was very helpful and genuine.  The venues are GORGEOUS and there are so many packages to choose from!  Beautiful scenery, world-class restaurants to celebrate at….what could be better?!

Also, just because it’s an elopment doesn’t mean you can’t have those photo shots of you and Mom that you want!  My coworker eloped last year at a courthouse, and they had a professional photographer and BEAUTIFUL photos, nicer than a lot of traditional wedding photos I’ve seen!  She had a simple white dress, but there were shots of her mom helping her get ready that were really sweet. I wouldn’t worry too much about family drama either…my parents are divorced and they are both fully supportive of whatever I want to do.  I am sure you will not regret whatever decision you make, as long as you get to marry the man you love Laughing  Good luck and congratulations on your engagement!

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