Post # 1
Been discussing who should be on our table with us….my partner’s parents are divorced and his dad has a new wife. Although they are civil towards each other, I am sure they would be more comfortable on separate tables. My parents I feel would also like to be sitting with my aunt and nan. I am British and SO is Spanish, it is hard work when we have our parents together because they don’t understand one another.
SO isn’t having any groomsmen/bestman….having a bridal party isn’t a thing in Spain. I will still have bridesmaids (my sisters and my younger sister’s girlfriend). I wondered whether to have them on our table but when we add them all (partner’s and kids) that will be the whole table taken up, although that doesn’t bother me in the slightest….I feel its unfair for my SO when on our table it’s only my sisters, their partners and my nieces.
So, I wondered if we could have friends but my partner said that would just be very strange because it’s just unheard of in Spain, I also have a close knit group of 6 friends and there wouldn’t be space for all of them plus partners…..I don’t really want to only pick a few of them. I had this issue when choosing bridesmaids which is why I stuck with family, I don’t want any of them to feel left out.
So…what did you lot do??
Post # 2
We did a sweetheart table so it was just my husband and me sitting together. Then we spaced out our families at separate tables so that aunts could sit with parents, etc., rather than being stranded at a random table. Highly recommend!
Post # 3
We originally planned to sit with some of our close friends or parents…but after going through the similar thought process that you did, we decided that we’re going to have a sweetheart table. We figured we won’t be sitting for too long and it will be easier to get up and mingle if we’re seated alone vs. potentially hurting anyone’s feelings who we didn’t chose to sit with us.
Post # 4
We also had a sweetheart table. It was really nice to have a little bit of time with my just husband.
Post # 5
We had a sweetheart table, sat each of our bridal party members with their spouses and friends, and let our parents pick who they wanted at their own table. It worked out really well!
Post # 6
- Wedding: August 2019 - City, State
worriedbeehere11 : I’m plannign a sweetheart table. Initially I was going to do a traditional head table with my bridesmaids and groomsmen on either side. However, I realised everyone int he bridal party has partners or spouses, and I felt bad that they would not get to sit with them during dinner. However, I did nto want all their partners and spouses in all my head table pictures, so sweetheart it is.
I also did not want family at our head table, mainly because there are too many extended members and it would just make thigns too complicated.
In the end, we will have a sweetheart table, a bridal party+partners table and then 2 family tables, on for the Grooms family and one for mine 🙂
Post # 7
Going through something similar. I’m Swiss and actually had never ever heard of something like a Sweetheart table. My fiance is Mexican and for them it’s very common to do so. Not that he would care, but our wedding planner suggested it. First we were like: hell no, we don’t want to sit alone. But now after thinking about who would sit with us, and where would be put the rest of our close family I think we might just do a sweetheart table as well.